I've been with my bf for 3 months. Things were so good at first, but now we're fighting more, and I don't feel valued anymore. Some of the problems are my fault cuz I haven't been the nicest to him lately.
It just seems like he hasn't been trying anymore. Plus, my bf's best friend tells me I should give him space because he's got a lot of personal problems right now.
I'm just not happy. Do I try to start fresh or just end it?
2006-10-09 16:30:21 · 16 answers · asked by CC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your inner self has already decided...which is why you've leaned toward not being very nice lately...you simply are not interested any longer. Quit torturing yourself and just end it and move on.
2006-10-09 16:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No just give him space and see the results. This person has a problem it is the best thing to do. It seems like you may be some of his problems since you mention that you have not been nice. Anyone with problems needs loving kindness not rejection. You are not giving details of why the two of you are fighting. So before ending this 3 month relationship, consider what you want out the relationship and you can make a rightful decision to end or start a fresh.
2006-10-09 23:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him than try and work through the problems that are arising in your relationship. If you aren't happy than end it but if you really do love him than give him the space he needs. You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel and that your there if he wants to talk to you. If he is showing no signs of making this work than maybe its time to move on. Its not good to be in an unhappy relationship as it gets the best of you. Take time out for yourself. If he loves you everything will work out and if not you tried.
2006-10-09 23:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to think about is why you started dating this guy to start with? And is this somebody you would marry? Only date those who would make a good mate-first rule to dating. But it sounds to me that you have left out the most important thing for any relationship-Jesus Christ. He must be the center of your life as well as the center of your relationship. Jesus can help you with all of your proplems as well as your boyfriends personal problems. Get into a good church and make Christ the center of your life, that is more important than any man. If you put God first everything else will fall into place in your life whether you stay with this man or not.
2006-10-09 23:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by dineyb68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to start over fresh girl. Every relationship has problems so try to work them out. Let him know that you love him and that you are always there to talk to him when he's feeling down and out. If you think he needs space give it to him for a while and everything should work out for the best...
2006-10-09 23:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by tweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start fresh. let me tell you. If you have God in your life and his life, you realize and understand why you fight and it's silly. I have been dating this guy and we are so good together and we are on track with God and we haven't fought for over a few months. Don't be stubborn. Don't fight because you don't want to be wrong. talk to him like grown ups. Otherwise, theres no point to dating
2006-10-09 23:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your bf has his own personal problems, plus you're unhappy, then I think you should end it. it'll be good for both of you. you can let him handle his problems and you can once again be happy. But break it to him in a nice way, tell him you understand and hope he would understand.
2006-10-09 23:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by jigenlo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dear Ive been there and after 2 years of deciding to let him breathe we still fight constantly so escape while you still can... Do not get stuck like I have...
2006-10-09 23:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by myspace junkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy why would you want to stay? the answers right in front of you. life is too short go and have a little fun.
2006-10-09 23:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start fresh. confront him. be nicer to him, tell him that as long as he particiaptes too, u 2 shoudl try to stop arguing and stuff. and if that doenst work, end it.
2006-10-09 23:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by The Ren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋