so yeah i was just wanderin how you get over a person that you have dated for the last 3 yrs.
2006-10-09 16:04:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time. Time and crying. Talking to friends and more time then dating ;p Maybe some of your favorite snakcs in between. those :)
2006-10-09 16:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by brattybard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will undoubtedly take care of it but in the meantime, nothing helps get over a sour relationship like a new and better one. Get out there and look at all the people who would make a wonderful friend and the love will come along too.
2006-10-09 16:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Diana L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is de-immortalize him. For the last 3 years youve probably thought of him as a king...someone better than everyone else. You have to realize that he probably isn't. In a worldfull of men, there are bound to be others better suited to you. You should make it your quest to find them. Just start talking and flirting with lots of guys. And be proactive. It is such a turn-on for a girl to be obviously hinting that she wants to get to know you better (to a certain extent. Don't be clingy or annoying). I hope this helps...I like a girl that has the same problem. And its so frustrating to watch her going back to this lying, cheating, POS...
Good luck.
2006-10-09 16:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey I know the feeling. We are growing apart and thats just as hard he is away at school and It hurts. Try to get back in the dating game and find fun things you like to do to keep them off of your mind. Hang out with your friends go dancing just try and think of the person. I hope I helped a little.
2006-10-09 16:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by dots_1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy, and I know you can't see past it right now, but I promise you that in your own way you will get that person. I can also say it won't take as many years as you've been together! Beyond that who knows, you may accidentally run into someone tomorrow, or slowly find other interests over the next couple of months.
2006-10-09 16:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by greenguy415 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It aint easy. That's all there is to it. The old cliche "time heals" is true, but it's a painful journey. Try to find a new hobby, as far from something you might have done as a couple as you can get. Something maybe you always wanted to try, but held back 'cos she didn't like it? Keep busy, volunteer.... I know... easy for me to say, right?
I'm sorry you're hurting. I hope you get past this as painlessly as possible.
2006-10-09 16:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes TIME, especially if you felt you were really in love with them and thought, at some point, they were "the one." Be patient with yourself, do nice things for yourself, don't put yourself down because you are not together anymore (hard to do if you were the "dumpee"). One thing I learned after a hard breakup - do not lose yourself in the other person - don't think you are "nothing" without them, because, if they leave, you are left with "nothing" and it's painful to get yourself back/rebuild your self/life without them.
2006-10-09 16:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with friends, meet new people, listen to sad music, write in a diary about your feeelings. If it gets really bad then talk to a counselor.
2006-10-09 16:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon.. IM in the exact same situation He left me for a 13 year old and we are 18!
It just happened 3 weeks ago. i hurt so much and seeing them together... and hes giving me mixed signals
email me if you wanna talk
kreamofthekrop6@yahoo.ca
I would love to chat with someone in the same situation..
2006-10-09 16:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating other people.
2006-10-09 16:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋