Ladies don't immediately say no. Think about this. The way I look at females...they want what they can't have (or really have to work for). So I've decided that I make myself more attractive to girls by doing less (kinda). Girls: by talking to you once or twice a day, is your interest not sparked? By talking to 10 girls once or twice a day, is your drive to go after me not enflamed?
Note: I am a senior in high school. Girls like me. But, none of them seem to be interested in a relationship (and the ones that do, have boyfriends ironically). This is why I'm asking the question. Is my strategy only good for hookups? Is it good for nothing? Will it pay off in the long run (sometime this year)?
2006-10-09 16:02:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm a dude. listen to me, unless ur brad pitt, you will fail miserably. They'll just be like, wow, this dude is stuck up, shy, anti-social, wierd, etc. And move on to the next. There are plenty of fish in the sea my friend, you are not the only eligible dude.
Now, the reason girls who are in a realtionship get closer to you is simple: they have nothing to loose. They can test the waters, flirt, do whatever but if for some reason they mess up, it doesn't matter bc they're already hooked up. Think about it, you do it too. You're more comfortable around ur buds than around ur girls bc u know they're no risk w/ ur buds, they aint (hopefully not) trying to get w/ you.
Hope that helps. Good luck
2006-10-09 16:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by vthokie4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty confusing, and the truth is, it can just turn into a game, so once they get what they "can't" have, then the game is over and time to move on. If you show genuine intrest in the girl, but don't smother her. That will work much better. Keep up what you doing, but modify it. Make eye contact when you speak with her everytime. Give her a tiny touch some how. Notice her in a crowd, but keep your space. develope friendships. This can work for all girls, but make sure not to make a lot of close "friendships." Good luck with it all. That is a good question, it really is. Try what I said. If any girls read this - it works in your favor also. Trust me - I know it. It was my "thing" in hig school. It makes everyone feel important to you.
2006-10-09 23:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. To put it honestly- I think it does. I love sweet guys who want a relationship. It's adorable. But occassionally, there's that guy that knows he's a great guy, but isn't a jerk and he just doesn't seem to be interested in a relationship. There was a senior I knew once who wanted nothing to do with dating. He never wanted to get married. Just said he wanted to move to Japan and open his own coffee shop and the girls were all over him. Poor guy. lol. Good luck. I think it will work.
2006-10-09 23:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have hit on something. Good for you for realizing it in high school. We women, were really the hunters when you get down to it. We are approached all day long. So, When we find something (or someone) we just have to have....its nice to be able to flirt and work for what you want. Ladies dont like "the pushover". and there is just something enticing about wanting something and then having to wait a little for it.
2006-10-09 23:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by brightambitions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, playing hard to get pisses me off. I happen to like being paid attention to. If you arent gonna give me the time of day, why on earth would i be interested in you? i think the best thing a guy can do would be to come up and tell me that he likes me and wants to go out sometime.
2006-10-09 23:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by horsegal92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing hard to get doesn't work on girls because they lose intrest to quickly. By the time they see the next -cutest pair of shoes in the whole wide world- in the shop window, your pretty much forgotten about.
2006-10-09 23:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by webwriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might work for overly confident girls. I'm pretty shy and I know I wouldn't go for a guy like that because I'd be way too nervous and a little intimidated. I prefer a guy who is approachable, but that's just me :o)
2006-10-09 23:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't like men that are playing hard to get, because they can just go after another one that is not. Most men don't play hard to get. Your strategy is not working or you would have a girlfriend. When a man plays hard to get we think they are stuck up, but it's ok for a women to play hard to get because most men like that. Get over yourself.
2006-10-09 23:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes but then we give up and we lose interest in your little games. So I personally don't like when guys play games its pointless just like guys don't like it when we women play games. So don't do it to us.
2006-10-09 23:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why men are like dogs hiting the one on heat or in season while waiting for the next to come on
2006-10-09 23:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by kiky m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋