Is this normal?
2006-10-09 15:58:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anything that causes trauma can result in phobias.
BTW, congratulations on leaving the abuse. I know first-hand how hard and rewarding that can be!
2006-10-09 16:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! And it doesn't disappear over night or in a few weeks or a month. This is normal unfortually. I do hope this man is in the past with you and he hasn't bothered you anymore. I was once in a abusive relationship years back and I had to live in a 'battered woman's shelter for a little while', and it really sucked! He stalked me and I had to take out a 50-B/restraining order against him. I went through the same thing. It does pass with time. I do have some night mares still sometimes, but other than than; it's all gone, and I am re-married and safe. He doesn't bother me anymore. (My hubby would stomp his a** if he did!). Good luck sweetie..if need be, seek some counseling; all cities should have help for such needs.
2006-10-09 23:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by sdrose17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have to take anti-anxiety meds now, because of all the
trauma he put me thru. 9 long horrible years. BUT, he wasn't
always abusive. They sprinkle some good crap in there too ~~to
keep you there. And they never change. I am way more better off
now. I had to get therapy, it has helped. But, ya, I just know what
to look out for now....the "signs". It can scar u emotionally, cuz
physically the scars may have healed, but emotionally you still
re-live the nightmare. But, It DOES get easier, and BETTER!!!!
Don't live in fear. Don't be afraid. Everything will be alright.......
Good, loving relationships, for some are hard to find, but wait.
Just wait. For the RIGHT person. You will know better, next time.
Think of it as a learning experience, you had to learn this,....the
hard way. You are a SURVIVOR. So, go and be free!!!
2006-10-09 23:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. I was sexually abused as a child, and I still get anxiety attacks sometimes when I'm around men.
2006-10-09 23:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. You know the expression, once bitten twice shy.
We all survive in this world because in spite of all the bad things we see on the news, there's a little kernel of our being that believes "it can't happen to me". When something DOES happen, that little bit of confidence is dashed. We realise it CAN happen to us, and we're constantly on our guard to prevent that.
That's what has happened with you. It may help to have some counselling. It may also help to be upfront with men you go out with. Explain why you are anxious and ask for their patience. A good man will be patient and help you get over your fears. And there are good men out there, don't worry!
2006-10-09 23:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was in an abusive relationship. She no longer hugs people, even family members. She has problems getting close to anybody. It is normal and needs to be treated. You may want to seek therapy.
2006-10-09 23:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mitch B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's completely normal, but you have to realize, not all guys are abusive, you just have to over come the fear..
2006-10-09 23:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so.My wife has anxiety attacks due to being beaten by her Jerk of an ex-husband.It takes me hours at a time to get her calm by surrounding her with a few things(Her cat,hot tea,and cozy blanket) so she has time to think it over,and calm down.Later she will talk it over with me when she feels comfortable doing so.I never pressure her due to her past problems with men.I hope you can find comfort trying this as well.
2006-10-09 23:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable.. but shouldn't be "normal"... you need to get some counseling and get over your fear of men. Half the world is male... so it's best to not be scared of them.
2006-10-09 23:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by spanish kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is normal to have some kind of fear of being re-abused.
2006-10-09 23:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋