At the conclusion of a wedding, should the ushers return to dismiss by row?

Question

For a wedding of about 200 people, I am debating how to dismiss the congregation at the conclusion of the service. Would you prefer to have the ushers dismiss by row (it can get tedious) or would it be better for the officiant to simply announce before the recessional that the service has concluded and they are invited to join the reception line in the foyer? It's a semi-formal day wedding but not terribly rigid to the rules. I'm leaning towards having the ushers dismiss them by row. What do you think?

Answer 1

Normally, the ushers will dismiss the rows, starting with the first row in the front of the church. As the bride and groom, followed by the attendants go down the isle, the ushers will enter from the back of the church on the outside of the pews. If you happen to be getting married in a church where the pews are against the wall, they will wait until everyone has cleared the isle, the proceed back to the front of the church. The ushers are already standing in place, so people will know to wait until given the ok to leave. It is at this time, the bride and groom will be waiting near the front door, to be joined by both sets of parents, to form the receiving line if you are going to have one. The purpose of a receiving line is to personally thank everyone for coming. There are two special reasons this is done, the first is because some people will not be attending the reception, the other is because most receptions are so busy that the bride and groom do not get around to seeing everyone.

Answer 2

Thank you for not doing the row by row thing because it does get incredibly tedious. Nothing like annoying your guests right before the reception!

I don't think there needs to be any sort of announcement or anything. After a regular church service, the pastor does not dismiss the crowd. Everyone just leaves. Unless there is a great possibility that people will go out a side door and miss the receiving line, I don't think you will need to announce that either. maybe just in the program.

Answer 3

Use the ushers. It's how people expect to be dismissed. Also, you want the rows dismissed by the ushers so that the receiving line doesn't get backed-up.

Answer 4

You can do whatever you want. Most people won't get up to leave until they are dismissed. Instead of the ushers doing this, why don't you and your new spouse dismiss the guests? This can act as the receiving line as well so that it doesn't cut into the other festivities.

Answer 5

I've seen where the bride and groom dismiss the guests row by row themselves... if you do it this way, there's no need for a receiving line at all, because the guests will say thier congratulations as you're dismissing them. Plus, it lets guests who haven't been dismissed sit comfortably, as opposed to having to stand in line for ten minutes.

Just another thought.

Answer 6

If you want the ushers to dismiss by rows, then by all means do so. Yes, it can get tedious, on one hand, on the other you don't have a mob of people pushing to get out either. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

At the church that we are getting married in there isn't an area for us to do a receiving line because our wedding is in February, too cold to stand outside. So me and my fiance are going to dismiss the rows. This way we can address, thank and hug everyone that was there to witness our wedding.

Answer 8

I prefer it when the bride and groom goes back and releases everyone. This eliminates the long and uncomfortable reception line and allows those that were in your wedding to chill out and relax. It also gives the bride and groom some personal moments with each guest. It doesn't take that long and people would be more apt to wait so they can give you hugs and kisses and thoughts of congratulations.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The ushers generally escort the family out and the other people make their way out after the family rows have been cleared.