My bf and I had problems for the past few weeks but finally we decided to start over new. The thing is, my bf is very traditional. He had had this no sex before marriage rule even before he met me. So during the past 9 months, we didn't have sex but did every other things except that. So it's kind of hypocritical of him. Anyway this time when we decided to start over, we comprised on a lot of issues but he insisted that we should stay in different beds. He wouldn't even stay over even if we are only gonna hold each other all night. I was confused b/c we did stuff during the past 9 months. Then he said he actually felt guilty about that b/c he felt that was against his morals. He was a boy scout for a really long time before he went to college so I'm thinking did he take some kind of oaths or something? He said maybe we can still be like before doing things just not sex, but that needs time and he doesn't know how long. I'm so confused. Aren't most guys wanna be close to their gf?
2006-10-09 15:25:50 · 12 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I honestly don't think this has anything to do with being a Boy Scout.
2006-10-09 15:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 14:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it probably has nothing to do with the Boy Scouts, and probably has more to do with his beliefs or religion. If you want to get more intimate, then you need to decide if you can still handle the relationship the way it is. I'm sure he probably does want to lie in bed and hold you, but doing those things is probably tempting him and making him want more. It sounds like right now he is really confused about how to handle things now. If you think it is worth it, then hang in there. If you need more than what he's offering, then you need to decide what's the best move to make.
2006-10-09 15:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking that this guy has hopped in the hay with previous Girlfriends and those never worked out in the long run and has enough respect for you to wait it out, This honestly sounds to me that he has the respect to make it the long run with the RIGHT woman. If the man gets guilty about just being with you overnight before making you his legally, then you truly do have an old fashioned woman as I would never have those thoughts, Good luck to the both of you
2006-10-09 15:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by anton_29207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this link will help in terms of the oath thing. I'm an Eagle Scout myself and I feel I follow these codes as much as anyone, but your boyfriend is going a little far. Is he religious at all?
2006-10-09 15:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that it's weird for him to not want to hold him but I am with him about waiting until marriage for sex, because adultery is a sin that is commonly committed. Maybe he just feels scorched after whatever happened the last time you were together and needs time to feel completely comfortable with you before cuttling and things like that. He might not wanted to feel tempted for sex either. Good luck.
2006-10-09 15:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it call silibacy. its a hard thing to do especially when u have a partner that u wanna be close to in a deeper level than u should. its not that he doesn't wanna be close u should just respect his morols in appreciate a guy who cares more about wat u are about. than ur a**,boobs, and clits.
ps. he probably couldn't resist himslf in the past months like i say its not easy bein sex free with a partner. he just wants to stay on tract.
tell him how u feel his not close without dishonorin his morals.
2006-10-09 15:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a long relationship and I will attest that sex changes things, a lot. He doesnt want to go down that road because you had already started down it, he saw the possible outcome and it scared him. Dont worry, he cares about you, and that is probably why he doesnt want to go down that road yet.
2006-10-09 15:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god! lose him, guys do not do that, sex is an essential part of a relationship and if it is not their then maybe u should marry him NOW or lose the guy, sorry their was no oath he's probably scared his thing might be 2 small? and if u've done everything else that consists of sex: oral, anal...
2006-10-09 15:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Faten S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Long story short: ditch him, he's weird and is gonna stay that way.
2006-10-09 15:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by sonyack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋