I am a divorced 22 year old female. I moved back into my parents house after getting a divorce. I have to ask permission now wherever I go and they still ground me!! What can I do?!?!?!?
2006-10-09 15:24:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 32 and my parents still control me!! Same situation I recently got divorced after being separated for almost four years, I have four children and I just went back to college. It is great that they are helping me out, but it's still hard because I'm an adult but I have to live by their rules while living in their house! I really hate it sometimes. However, your situation is somewhat different especially if you don't have any children. Your parents do not have the right to ground you or know where you are at every minute of the day. You should still be treated as an adult unless you are doing something that is harmful to you. I think that your best bet though is to get on your feet and move out of their house ASAP. They are being controlling probably because they love you and don't want to see you hurting, but they need to learn that they can't protect you forever. Try to sit down with them and have a serious chat, and let them know that your goal is to be on your own again in a set number of time, whatever that may be to suite your needs. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-09 15:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could there be a reason why you moved back to your parents house? Sometimes after a traumatic event....divorce, people do things that may not be apparent to them at the time. Maybe you wanted the comfort of home? Maybe at the time it seemed like a good idea. Your parents have set the rules and you seem to be following them. If you need to live with your parents you will need to tell them that this is troubling to you. They may just want to be protective. It's not unreasonable to know where you're going but to ask their permission? You need to ask yourself what the pay off is? I suggest you have an adult conversation with your parents. You are their child but you are also an adult. You should share with them your concerns and let them know this is very bothersome to you. Good luck and I hope you find your voice.
2006-10-09 16:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think as a 40 year old father, perhaps they are upset that things happened for whatever that was. Maybe if you show them you are responsible for your actions, I don't know if you have children or not, and you want to be an adult, that may work in your favor.
You have a place to live which is very important. Work and offer to pay your way. Be an adult. It will benefit you.
2006-10-09 15:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Garage Dude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grounding seems to be a bit much at your age. They should have some ground rules, and you should respect them, but if they cannot face the fact that you are an adult, it is time to show them you are by getting out on your own.
2006-10-09 15:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to find a job that will pay you enough to support yourself and move out of your parents. In the mean time, I would tell them that you respect them but you are a grown woman and they cannot ground you. That is just ridiculous.
2006-10-09 15:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're 22 and an person they might't shop you from doing what you decide on. actually it feels like an particularly abusive relatives and getting out on your very own could be a competent component. you may not be in charge for you mom if she options to stay in abusive subject. actually in case you took administration of your stay and moved out it may motivate you mom to do an analogous! you're saying you may no longer have sufficient money to pass out yet i do no longer understand why. You suggested you paintings for the federal government and that i understand they pay nicely. Do you in basic terms paintings area time? you're an person act like one and grab your existence!
2016-10-16 00:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you are under their roof and for two just cuz you moved back in with them doesn't mean you are suppose to get grounded or have permission on where to go,unless you were disable which don't sound like you are.Find a way to get your own place,and you won't have to listen about to them telling you what time you have to be in.This is frustrating to me,get your own place quick.
2006-10-09 15:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you first have to think of why they are doing this to you. Personnally I would say that its because they are being over protective and don't want to see you fail again. Its hard for any parent to see their child go through what you have experienced. You have to be the one to gain their trust back in you and show them that you are a responsible person who has fallen but willing to also get back up and continue the struggles of life. This leads me to the other part. If you intend to be independent then you have to show that you can be.
My advice to you would be to first think of why you went back to live with them. Then decide if you want to stay there for a long time or just to get over this transition phase. Next you have to sit with them and bring this out to them. They need your reasurrance that you will be able to take care of yourself and that they won't have to worry if or when you will fail again. You need to let them know that you accept the fact that you have failed in this part of your life but you did not go back to them to be controlled all over again. You need their moral support and to know that once you decide to venture into a new relationship, they will respect you too. Everyone falls at times and the greatest thing to know is that we can have our parents or someone there for us when we do. You have your parents so you should let them know how much you appreciate what they are doing for you but you need to let them know that you are an adult and you need to learn from your mistakes.
2006-10-09 15:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm, well, you are under their roof, but it seems they are going a little too far. I would totally disobey the 'rules' they set for you. You do need to get out of that situation though. It is not at all healthy for you. Find a roomie or two and get out.
2006-10-09 15:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mitch B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say it, but get a job and move out of your parents house.
2006-10-09 15:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋