I am 25 my gf is 18 we are pretty good to each other we have been together for about a month she still lives at home thou she told her parents about me but told them i was only 21 and the freaked out and tell her she cant see me anymore, she sneaks out to see me and lies i dont know if i want to get her in trouble or myself even thou she is 18 it still comes down to the u live under our roof crap i told her i would talk to her parents but the problem is i would never pass for 21 what should i do?
2006-10-09 15:24:07 · 10 answers · asked by willyholdem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be an adult about it. If she is a mature and responsibly 18 year old then she will be too. In being mature adults and not reckless young adolescents... and in proving that you are a mature and caring and responsible 25-year-old guy as opposed to an immature 25-year-old bum loser, you will make the parents much more at ease and they will probably approve of you despite your age. I guess people get weary of 25-year-olds hanging out with people so young... it makes them seem immature or like they have a problem that they would relate to someone so much younger than they are... but if you can prove that you are at the same maturity level... and meaning that she is up to an older level, then that might help. My best friend dated a 32-year-old guy when she was 18, but she was really mature and in that professional world with all of the older people for a while anyway, and he really cared about her going to college and doing the things she needed to do to become a responsible adult. The parents eventually approved of him just fine.
2006-10-09 15:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok there's more going on with her parents than just your age for one thing. I don't suppose you're her 1st boyfriend? Or she got into trouble with a previous older man? Ask her about that. For another, they shouldn't be freaking out about 18 and 21. That's only 3 years difference and has pretty much always been a reasonable difference. 18 and 25 is a little bit too much distance. They're probably just parentnoid. Probably afraid you're gonna take her out and get her drunk and rape her or something like that. Be courteous, not overly touchy, but obviously happy, and have her do the same when you meet the parents. If you're going to have a real, successful relationship, she can't keep lying about it, and the longer the lying continues, the less likely her parents are to forgive her when they catch you. Tell them, meet them, and become more than just an age that is dating their daughter.
2006-10-09 15:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not care what the hell her parents say. A relationship with that young of a girl is not gonna go anywhere unless you kock her up anyway. In a year or 2 you will realize just how boring it is to talk with a girl that is that much younger than you. You will be thinking about grown up stuff and she'll be talking to you about some idiot from American Idol. Enjoy the experience and don't worry about the parents!
2006-10-09 15:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by shushbush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 18 yes, but isn't there a way for u to get to know the parents on a more intement level?
2006-10-09 15:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents as lying isn't a good thing!!
2006-10-09 15:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you back off and leave this nice young girl alone? Are you that much of a man......
2006-10-09 15:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesnt matter but ... you do what you think is right. in the end if you are meant for one another you both will wait
2006-10-09 15:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop sneaking around you're not a kid anymore and neither is she
2006-10-09 15:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and her are both adults , so what you do is your business.
2006-10-09 15:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by danshalom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but thanks for the points
2006-10-09 15:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by * †♥Sasha† 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋