I'm 17 and my boyfriend will be 21 soon. He is my very first boyfriend and we have been going out for 6 months now (we are in love!) If I have to tell my parents about him, how? What should I say? My mom kind of knows him, although she has a sort of negative view about him from his dad. What, how, and when should I tell my parents?
2006-10-09 15:19:33 · 19 answers · asked by melomane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have only been out with him for six months give it a full year before you mention him. Have an open talk with your Mum how she feels about him generally or how she met her first love you may get her to open up then tell her how you feel about him then.
If she still feels the same way about him being him over and have him meet her excuse yourself and let him chat with her. Tell him what her feelings are and tell him what her favourite things are so he can bring it up and make her feel comfortable. If they have similar interests she may change her mind or feel more at ease with him going out with you. 18 and 22 looks different than 17 and 21 don't rush things take your time and if it doesn't work out you are still young and have your whole life still ahead of you.
Good Luck :)
2006-10-09 15:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by non 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tell you that it will be a nagitive responce! Your 17 (still a minor) and he is almost 21!! that will rise some red flags for you parents!
BUT you should tell them!!!!!!!!!! It is better to tell them now, then have them find out some other way ^_^ (and beleve me they can and will find out)
IF they have any idea that you are friends and you can breaing it up and say you have mixed fellings about him or somthing like that get there input on the situatoin or him!
I am going to tell you somthing, this might not be easy but in the long run, you will thank your self!
I am only one person and you are going to have many more response's so read them all you can also combin peoples post to better fit your situation!
Have a great day!
Adam D.
2006-10-09 15:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Adam D. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should let your parents know about him. Its never a good idea to keep those type of things from your parents because too many things may happen. There are so many infortunate situations you can get yourself into. For you protection I would tell your parents. I know lying will just put a huge weight on your chest. I can't believe I'm saying this!(only 19 years old) but its the truth & what is in your best interest.
2006-10-09 15:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Candice F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 17 you are almost an adult. You should be handling this in that manner. I would not keep him a secret. I am sure they would not appreciate that. I am a mother and to be honest, I would rather my daughter tell me these thing rather than me find out myself. If your parents respect your judgement, then I don't really see it being that big of an issue. Good luck!
2006-10-09 15:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Tell them now, well in advance of his 21st birthday. Otherwise, they will go bonkers when they find out he is 21 and dating a minor. Give them time and opportunity to know him a little. You are in a category called "jail bait" for him right now. Ask if he can come for a family dinner or event, rollerskating, a trip to the park, anything. Let him see them in their most normal state as well, to encourage conversation and lower the levels of animosity.
2006-10-09 15:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by H2Ocolors 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all know that if you're a Christian, we believe what the bible says... "the heart is deceitful above all things who can comprehend it?" God's has prepared the best things for us only that we need to wait and listen to His direction and guidance through the people that surrounds us like our parents..... in this particular situation that you are going through this is the best time that you need to tell your parents for them to guide you and feel the excitement that you are feeling and at the same time the joy that you are enjoying now that you have a boy friend... they need to partake with you the things that you're going through....isn't it amazing that your parents will know that their daughter is in love.... that means you're now a teenager...
2006-10-09 15:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Diane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell them. Sit down with them and while having dinner calmly explain to them (so they don't freak out) you have been seeing someone over the past six months and you bolth love eachother. I know it sounds cheesy, but you will have to tell them sooner or later. And if you explain to them all the details I'm sure they will listen, and not turn him down. Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-10-09 15:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kadi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is not important so Don't tell ur parents until ur 18 then u will be a adult and u are ur own big woman so they cann't interfare in ur relationship unless they are nosey and over protected
2006-10-09 15:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by caena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear melomane,
Have you really found love? or did he just say things to your ear and you fell for it (since he is your first boyfriend).
Men always try to use all their techniques to be with a female, specially someone who just started to date.
Well you need to meet with your parents and tell them, that you are dating and you will like to bring your date home with you for dinner one day, they may ask you who it is, if they do, please answer it, its better for them to know who it is then you suprise them. If they don't accept it, ask them to give the boy one more chance and invite him for dinner so your parents can know more about him, and make a final judgement!
Goodluck!
- Dr.Wuv
2006-10-09 15:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you tell them before they catch you. That way they will probably be more understanding and accepting since you told them and not disappointed and upset that u haven't told them. They might be a little upset that you waited so long already tho. Proceed with caution.
2006-10-09 15:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Meagan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋