I have been dating this girl close to a month now. She is amazing. This is probably my first real relationship. I don't want to screw it up or anything.
When/where should i ask her to be my girlfriend?
and When is it a good time to for her to meet my parents/extended family?
2006-10-09 15:11:48 · 15 answers · asked by roberto2951 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the heck? What a minute...you have been dating for a month, thought she was already your girlfriend...she probably thinks so, too!
Listen, just come out with it while you are sitting alone quietly. Tell her that you are really digging her and you would like your relationship to be exclusive.
Meeting your parents...just bring her over to your house or to a family dinner or gather to meet the rest of your family. Don't make a big production out of it because she may feel pressure...too much focus on her. Just casually drop by your families homes and bring her with you...they'll meet her. And she won't feel like the center of attention.
2006-10-09 15:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Author Al 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her at a time when neither of you is upset or stressed about anything. After a sweet movie or something of that ilk. The meeting of the parents depends entirely on the parents in question. If your parents are the kind that like to embarass you or try to intimidate your girl, wait a few months; i'd say up to 6 months. If you have a friendly kind of family that you think won't send her screaming for the hills, you can do it sooner. I suggest not making it into a big event though. That will just make her uncomfortable.
2006-10-09 22:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Let's get terminology straight first, tex.
You say you're dating.
Dating = She is your girlfriend.
You're not dating if she isn't your girlfriend.
When you say dating, have you ACTUALLY gone out on a date? Or do you mean you've been flirting and chatting with her and are great friends with her now, but have never done anything?
Let's say you have gone on dates. If you have, all that's left to do is worry about your "label." A label on a relationship is big. If you're dating but haven't exactly proclaimed that you're not seeing or planning on seeing anyone else, you should do that. Often, it's just assumed that she is your girlfriend. A serious label talk shouldn't happen. Let it come up casually, as if it isn't a big deal.
Meeting the family? It'll happen soon, that's not something you should worry much about. You'll know them forwards and backwards by thanksgiving, with any luck.
Seems like you've done good so far. Wish you well. Good luck.
2006-10-09 22:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by jo6769 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. Either way, you can ask her about your status as a couple on a date, just by telling her you enjoy her company and would like to take your relationship a little further and become a couple, rather then casually dating.
Wait on the parents, until there's an event like a wedding/birthday or something. It'll cut down on the awkwardness if you have other things to do then sit and stare at your parents!
2006-10-09 22:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kennedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like u 2 are close already, I would ask her right now. And anytime would be great to meet the parents, I would wait longer for the extended family.
2006-10-09 22:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Meagan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait at least another month or two for the girlfriend thing, and probably 3-4 months for the parents. It takes awhile to get to know someone. I wouldn't move quite so fast.
2006-10-09 22:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should ask her to be your girlfriend when you are ready. Do you want to see her exclusively? Then ask her. As far as the parent thing goes, that really depends. I usually introduce my significant others to my family early on because their opinions really matter, and I like to see how they interact.
2006-10-09 22:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by justsomeone00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait another month to ask her if she would be your girlfriend.
I would wait another week or so after that before I would introduce her to family.
Don't rush things take it slow and easy. It'll last longer that way.
2006-10-09 22:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she is ready to make an exclusive commitment. If not, what is the holdup. If never, move on.
2006-10-09 22:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you are feeling... she will give you a good indication if she is ready to take it to the next level.
2006-10-09 22:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋