i am 22 and will be graduating from college in may 2008. i attend school full time and also have a part time job. i have been engaged since jan but am having a problem choosing my wedding date. i would love to get married over the summer but am wondering if this is the best finaincal discission. my mom is still helping me out but once i get married she will be unable to help me financailly. should i want until after i graduate to get married or should i go for it and figure out the finances later?
2006-10-09 15:05:39 · 14 answers · asked by umelme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would graduate first and then you will be more able to plan a wedding and it will be easier if you know what your future plan is.
2006-10-10 08:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by atthean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about have a small ceremony in the near future and maybe through a large anniversary celebration later when you graduate. Or, get legally married but hold the formal wedding ceremony and reception after you get out of school if you still want to. On the other hand, waiting 2 years will allow you to save up more money and seek out the best bargains so you can have the wedding you want.
2006-10-10 04:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by Molly1015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would finish school first then get married. Because planning a wedding can be stressful and you dont need that right now with school. And 2008 is not that far away. And just think the longer you wait the more you can save for your perfect day.
2006-10-09 15:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should try to balance the problems. If you deeply want to marry your fiancée, you can do so without any great problem:you will just reduce the cost of the wedding. You don't have to marry fancily in order to get married correctly.
I wish things happen the way you and your future husband would like them to.
The real point is to marry the man you love, not to marry in the most luxuous way.
2006-10-09 15:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and figure all that stuff out first. I am also graduating from collage in 2008 and engaged since last year but we decided to wait so we can find a place to live and be financially stable.
2006-10-09 15:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Alej 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an adult decision, and an adult act, so you shouldn't be married until you can completely be an adult, and that means supporting yourself (and any little ones that tend to come along as well). One of the leading causes for divorce is financial issues, so it's very important. I'm not saying you have to have the biggest house, nicest car, etc., I'm saying you need to be able to pay the rent on your own, without help from Mom and Dad in order to be married. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-09 15:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you got married before graduating would your husband be able to help you fincially? If so then get married! But if there is no way he can help you financially then wait until your done school.
Just one question though?? If you got married soon then why couldn't your mom still help you out???
2006-10-09 15:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you graduate, she most likely won't be able to keep you on her health insurance anymore, either.
That's how we chose our date; I'm going to come off my parents' health insurance whether I get married or graduate from college, so I figured I might as well go on and do both.
But find out before you make any decisions!
2006-10-10 13:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its better for you to least wait until your finances are better ? Dont try to make something thats not there happen because you dont want to be in money troubles two ways, one from school the other from credit cards to pay for the wedding.
2006-10-09 17:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by tc32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance should get married when you can afford the wedding you want. You should not be relying on your mom - especially once you get married! Grow up, girl!
2006-10-10 01:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school, if your fiance really wants to marry you, then he wont mind a long engagement, and will understand your reasoning.
2006-10-09 15:09:50 · answer #11 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋