If im living with my dad and i wanna live with my cousin.. and i think that id be happier at my cousins.. is it so wrong to leave my dads.. im 14. And I just dont wanna hurt my dad.. but i feel in my heart that this is what i really want.. but i need some advice. everything is fine at home.. but i feel so empty. What should i do?
2006-10-09 14:57:34 · 21 answers · asked by Carly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i can understand your dilemma...you want to live with your cousin but you dont want to disappoint your father...maybe you can alternate houses???...some days you go with your cousin and some days you live with dad...but at 14 you need to be careful ...at 14 you are vunerable ...and you need someone to be there for you....your dad might be concerned that he doesnt want you to get in trouble ...and can you blame him honey?...he loves you ..all parents do ...ask him if you really want to go to your cousin's house and maybe your dad might want to talk to your cousin...does your cousin have enough room for you to move in ...that might be a consideration ....and can your cousin provide for you the way he can...your father will be the judge of that ...so ask him and then if he says no ...trust that he has your best interest at heart....
2006-10-09 15:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 everything seems empty, when you turn 15 you will have a whole different set of problems. Unless your dad is who is making you unhappy, you will take your unhappiness with you no matter where you go. And you will hurt him if you leave and you don't want to do that. There is something you can do, its called helping others, that takes your mind off the emptiness by allowing you to be of use and thats a wonderful feeling. Read at the library for kids storyhour, help a new mother, knit an afgan for the people at the home for the aged, or read the paper to them, lots of time they miss that. Turn out from your problems and you will find that you benefit more than the people you help.
2006-10-09 22:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not only wrong, but it is extremely selfish. Do you have any idea of how this would make your dad feel? How much pain this would cause? What YOU really want? What about what your dad wants and needs. You seem to think that at 14 you are mature enough to make a decision like this! Well then act mature, take into account the fact that this would break your dad's heart. And leave him feeling unloved and un-needed.
2006-10-09 22:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is your cousin?
What kind of living situation will it be?
Who do you think can be better at looking out for you?
Is your cousin is matual, and respectful in opinion among the family?
The best thing will be talk about it with your father.
You might not get what you want, but having open communication with him is very impotent.
And the best way to have his attention and respect toward to you.
For the mean time, write down a note. Trying to reason with your own thoughts. This will also better prepared you to have a conversation with your dad.
Feeling empty at your age is very normal. it's your way to find the meaning of your life.
Just do not let yourself got lost in it.
You still have a whole life front of you, in which that you will have to make many choices. Started it carefully with this one.
Good Luck
2006-10-09 22:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by wonderwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your dad and let him know that you feel empty. This is a normal feeling at times. But parents can't read minds and don't know when you are feeling this way. He maybe wants to reach out and talk to you, but is afraid to do it. Yes, parents do have fear when it comes to talking to their kids. He might be especially worried about it if you are a girl. Give him a chance, living with your cousin might seem right, at the moment. But how would living with your cousin fill your void or emptyness? Talk to your Dad, be honest with him and see what he says. Good luck!
2006-10-09 22:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Angelcare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad about your problem. Let him know how you feel. Perhaps you can ask him if you can live at your cousin's place for a little bit to see if you feel better living there, then you and your father can work something out.
But the questions here are: "Why do you feel so empty?" "Can your dad do anything to make you feel whole again?" If so, let him know what he can do to fulfill your happiness.
2006-10-09 22:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by mjangel28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I don't think you have a choice to leave home yet. You're still not an adult and legally your dad can force you to stay.
Second, you're way too young to even be considering such a thing. Do you have a way to pay for the things you want and need? Are you gonna be able to do your own laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc?
2006-10-09 22:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mitch B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your dad mistreat you? If not, you really have no reason to leave him.
Nothing short of that should make you leave your dad to go live at your cousins.
2006-10-09 22:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Picard Facepalm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong to leave your parent. I hope you don't want to leave because you will have more freedom. You are probably going to be able to run free without any supervision. Why are you so empty? Where is your mom? Not sure, need more details.
2006-10-09 22:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you are to young to live with a cousin, you need to be with your parent until you are older and more mature.....maybe dad will let you visit your cousin on the weekend sometime,
2006-10-10 00:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋