He knows that I dont want one for sex like most people my age (Im 16). I actually do want a relationship. Btw I am looking. Im not just waiting for God to have 1 appear before me. A girlfriend would be good for me. Why do u think he doesnt think so? BTW DONT SAY "OH ITS BECAUSE YOUR TOO YOUNG. HIGH SCHOOL RELATIONSHIPS NEVER WORK OR WAIT TILL COLLEGE" ALL THAT IS B.S. I'VE SEEN PLENTY OF PEOPLE MY AGE THAT HAVE HAD GOOD RELATIONSHIPS.
2006-10-09 14:55:26 · 15 answers · asked by chained6002 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why don’t you try making friends with girls, simply as friends.
You know, many girls that age are very lonely and would appreciate a friend. If something more is meant o happen, perhaps it will in time.
But if a girl thinks the only reason you want to be around her is because you’re looking for a relationship that can really put her off.
Perhaps God wants you to learn a little more about simple compassion to friends before you meet the right girl.
2006-10-09 15:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you, so I can't say for sure, but I do think that maybe God wants your focus to be on Him more. Sometimes He will make us wait for things we want, especially relationships because He knows we can get distracted easily, and get off track. I was really focused on having a relationship for a long time, and when I finally had a girlfriend, although it was great for awhile, the relationship became a distraction, because we weren't on the same level spiritually. So, i was trying really hard to make it work, when we were not compatible. She ended up breaking up with me, and it was so difficult to get through that, but now I can see that I don't want to be with her at all (we talk regularly, and I just really see things differently now).
Just make sure your focus is on God, and just make a decision that you're ok with whatever He has for you, and if a relationship isn't what he has for you at this time, remember that it will be so much better once you've had time to mature even more and grow spiritually and all that.
Our ways are not His ways. Nobody can tell you why God isn't blessing you that way right now, but He definitely knows what He's doing.
Also, I agree with the other person who answered and said that dating is overrated. It really is. In high school, everyone thinks it's so important to be with someone, and that can be such a strong focus because everyone else is dating, so it seems like it could be such a good thing in your life. But then some people find out that although they want a relationship, timing doesn't matter. You can learn to enjoy being single while you look forward to one day being in a good relationship.
2006-10-09 22:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by ryanjamesm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question as too this happens to a lot of people. I am going through it now, which I don't want a girlfriend, I want my future wife. READ THE BOOK, "I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris.
Being single has its advantages, like building up your personal relationship between you and God. You got to put God first in your life and HE WILL ADD EVERYTHING UNTO YOU. EVEN A GIRL OR YOUR FUTURE WIFE. When you do have a girlfriend, your relationship between God and yourself could get seriously hurt or destroyed, because you would be taking time between you and God and putting all that effort with your girlfriend. Plus, if she is not a Christian, ugly things can be the outcome of it. Sexual advances, cheating, turning you away from Christianity.
God wants to make sure that you love Him more than anybody on this earth, then He will send the right one if you pass that test.
Paul has to be one of the best examples in the Bible. He specifically made that choice to be single and not have a wife and kids. Why???? Because He loved Jesus more than anything in this world. To Paul, having a wife and children would just be a hinderance with his relationship between God and him. He wanted to give God all his energy, time, and undivided attention.
Love is patient, love is kind, love is well so much other stuff.
I KISSED DATING GOODBYE, by Joshua Harris, get that book, it will change your whole life and perspective of dating and marriage and how it ties in with having a relationship with the Lord.
2006-10-09 22:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by sanctusreal77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll admit, every night when I pray, I ask God to help me find a partner too. As it says in Genesis, its not good for man to be alone, i will make a partner for him. Anyway.... we cant really ask God for material things. And when they dont come, its not because God says no. What we can do is ask God for strength and courage, for patience and discipline. With those qualities, you can achieve anything.
Also, get your *** offline and get out there. If you want a gal, you cant be online. Go to a coffee shop, go to a bookstore. Go to a club. Women dont appear on the internet. Have confidence and strike up conversation. Be nice, and sweet, and respectful, and everything should work out.
2006-10-09 22:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by third_messiah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all beggars of God.
The Lord has a plan; sometimes it's like what we want, other times he needs us to learn something before he gives us a gift, and sometimes he knows that what we ask for isn't what we really want. You can never know Gods plan. In matters of love, just keep this in mind:
Love is patient; love is kind. Love is not jealous, it does not put on airs, it is not snobbish. Love is never rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not prone to anger; neither does it brood over injuries. Love does not rejoice in what is wrong but rejoices with the truth. There is no limit to love's forbearance, to its trust, its hope, its power.
2006-10-09 22:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to classify yourself alongside al of your peers, then you don't want what God has for you, you want the status quo. God may have a plan for you whereas you think having a girlfriend would be great, but God, being all-knowing, sees into your future and realize that it would complicate your life or cause you to lose focus on HIm.
If you are going to trust God, then you must accept what He allows. Know that He knows what is best for you and say like Jesus did, Father, not mine, but thy will be done.
2006-10-09 21:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a girl you like ask her out, the worst she can say is no. If you are religious try church groups. My daughters 14 & I know what you mean when people say oh she has trivial problems,shes just a teen. People don't understand or forget what is was like when they were young. Also if you see someone you are interested in try asking one of your friends or hers what she thinks of you. Remember if the first girl does not work out don't give up. Try & find another girl who strikes your fancy.
Good luck
2006-10-09 22:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Faith is not he problem here. It's the lack of good girlfriends. Sure, people might not like you, bu that's their problem. Be kind..you won't regret it! Also, since i'ma girl, I know for a fact that girls like boys because of their kindness to other boys (girls too). If you go around cussing and hitting people, no gf. I you show your brawn, brains, etc. in other, gentler manners, you'll be like a girl magnet.
2006-10-09 22:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God provided me a wonderful woman...when I was 30. It was well worth the wait, my friend.
God provides, in His own good time, not ours...
2006-10-09 22:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by stronzo5785 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is overrated.
2006-10-09 21:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋