i cut myself, is this bad?

Question

it helps me feel better, and i feel like if i dont, i will hurt someone i love, before tonight, i hadnt cut in about a month, and i said some really mean things to my friend after she said some really mean things that hurt my feelings, so for me cutting is a good thing

i cant talk to my mom, shes dead

Answer 1

Cutting is always bad. It works - there's no denying that. Pain is your body's way of telling your brain that something bad is happening to it and you need to try to stop whatever damage is occurring. Hurting your body is obviously not a good thing. But more than that, when you cut, it's because of some deeper emotional pain that you can't deal with any other way. Cutting is just a temporary fix. Next day, the pain is still there, so you cut again. I'm sure you already know that, whether or not you'll let yourself admit it.

You can't be nice to everyone all the time. If your friend says something that hurts your feelings, don't take it out on yourself. Instead, tell her how you feel. Or tell a relative or another close friend. If you can't do that, call a crisis hot line (the numbers are on the inside cover of your local phone book) and vent to them. You can find other releases as well: punch a pillow, tear up paper, scream - whatever works. Just don't cut yourself.

You're trying to justify a destructive behavior. You know it's perfectly well it's a bad thing, or you wouldn't be asking about it, you'd just do it without a second thought. But you want someone to give you permission to cut because you need to do it. I know, I do that too. I could give you dozens of reasons why cutting isn't so bad. But in the end, they're all lies. Get help now. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Plus it's generally thought of as a teen issue, so telling someone about it just gets more awkward the older you get.

Answer 2

I used to self-harm too. It was a coping mechanism I guess. I found it hard to communicate my feelings to others, so instead of getting help if I felt angry or sad I would cut myself. I got comfort from doing it and I liked the secrecy surrounding it too, I felt like it gave me some control. And like you if I felt I had behaved badly, argued with a friend for example, I would cut myself to make myself feel better. I wouldn't say that its bad, as in a sin or anything, but really its an addiction and it doesn't solve anything. I haven't cut for a while now, I got sick of spending hours sitting in A and E waiting to get stiched up, but I still bear the scars and probably will do for life, so yeah, I guess cutting is kinda bad. You should try and stop now before things escalate further. Can you confide in a friend or family member? If not then maybe you should see your doctor, he/she will be able to give you honest objective advice and help you to find other ways of coping with your emotions. I don't know if this helps but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

Answer 3

Cutting is not a good thing. I am sorry to hear about your mother. I used to cut...I know how the emotional pain feels, how it gets all bottled up inside and you feel like you are going to burst if these things dont come out some way. And you feel like you have no one to talk to and that no one will understand, but they will. You do have people to talk to. For instance, look how many people responded to this question so far, and its only been an hour. There are others out there who cut too, and some of us, many of us, have stopped. Try to learn some different coping skills... write, for instance. Write to your heart's content. Everything you feel, put it to paper. It helps in my experience. OR listen to music. There are better ways than this. I promise you.

Answer 4

I can tell that you are a really good person, and care more about other people than yourself, but cutting is bad no matter what the good intention is. Don't take my word for it, but maybe if you found something to do when you're really stressed other then that, you can go without cutting, which hurts you. Personally, when I am stressed, or sad, or angry, I clean my room. Or paint. I don't know what else you could do, but I think you should find something else to do to release the pain. If you're around 13, 14, 15, 16, you could read Seventeen Magazine or Cosmogirl. They are sometimes corny, but it takes my mind off of everything else, and relaxes me a lot! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Hi this is coming for a mental health nurse that works with teenagers. First off cutters in general do cut to fill their need for attention to some degree. What is going on that requires you to seek out this negative attention. Ussually it does have to do with a past truma that you are unwilling to deal with. By no means do I see this as bad... You are young and still learning coping methods. In my opinion you need to get so help to find out why you cant control your life. Tell your mom, Tell her you need help. Talk to a counselor or even a short term antidepressant. Believe me sweetie, this isnt the way you want to continue. Best of Luck!

Answer 6

Yea its a problem. But guess what it is a problem for s a lot of people. It sound like you already realize this is BAD. That is good. I seek therapy regularly. I also take medication. Believe it or not it really does make a difference. There are people in your life and some you may not know who look UP to you and one of the most important steps of feeling freedom is realizing there is a problem. No you may not know what it is. I still don't BUT I DO FEEL BETTER and YOU can too. Take care

Answer 7

If you are cutting yourself to release some kind of guilt that is very harmful behavior. Cutting yourself, eventually will lead you to other type of self-destructive behavior. You have some things you need to talk about with a professional, believe me, I know I've been were you are and it is very unhealthy and will only get worse. also believe me that things can and do get better to cope with; but you need professional help.

Answer 8

Seek help please. No this is not natural, cutting yourself is the indication of a real psychological problem, not just a "good thing" like you said. You might be a passive agressive person, so instead of letting your friends say something about you and you saying nothing, you should say something back to her, maybe even yell at her, anything to get that anger out and not cut yourself

Answer 9

Evidently "you" think it is wrong or you wouldn't have asked. All I can suggest is that you seek professional help for this problem, okay? And by the way? You have to care about you before anyone else can. Just like getting help for your "cutting" problem means you have to want help, to get help. Okay? good luck.

Answer 10

It sounds like there's an obsessional element to this.It won't stop you hurting someone you love-you're only hurting yourself.I think you need some guidance on how to deal with painful emotions more effectively.It'll come with age anyway,but you need help now before a vicious circle sets in.