2006-10-09 14:30:58 · 28 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there ! Its not something I want to experience again.
A few things can get you through it for now and you can work on making things better so you won't have to go through it as much later. Think of some positive things. Do it now. Think of your immediate comforts, Appreciate, be thankful, for any comforts and safety you have right now. Be kind to yourself first, treat yourself with something good that you like. For the time being, be your own best buddy. Think good thoughts about yourself. Think positive about the potential of all the good in the future. Tomorrow or later you can extend this kindness and appreciation to other people. When you go anywhere, practice eye-contact, and smile at people, When the chance presents itself, talk to people, just casual small talk, some comment they may agree with, or say something nice, some compliment, or thanks to them. Gradually more people, public may seem like casual buddies that come and go...eventually some may continue to become buddies, and some of those may become friends. Ultimately someone is reeeeally going to love you! You're feelings of loneliness now are a sign that you have a heart of gold, huge capacity to love and be loved, but just nothing much happening now. It will. Have patience! Lots of patience. Practice these things more and more. Let things grow in your personal life in due order, don’t force it or rush it, let go of perfectionism too. Recognize feelings of other people too. They’re all going through something, and have gone through things too, even if it doesn’t look like it now. I'm not finished yet...
Find some Leo Buscaglia tapes or cds, and listen well... they're great tool to battle loneliness for individuals and for society.
You might or might not like this extra idea too, If you have time, volunteer at hospitals or seniors homes... Do something good for other people, especially people who are also lonely, You may be awestruck at the warm feelings within yourself, and from people you help, you can show how wonderful you can be, and you might meet a visiting relative or nurse or doctor or staff that will admire you and maybe become great friends. Take it easy, go forwards to explore and enjoy all the freindship and all the good thats still to come.
2006-10-09 16:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by million$gon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry find a friend u dont have to be lonely go to parties, have some fun, enjoy life, just some advice from a former lonely person
2006-10-09 21:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Pau 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually feel physical pain sometimes myself, especially when flirting with a pretty barmaid, then having to leave and wonder why I'm still alone. But by the time I find a good song on the radio the feeling goes away.
2006-10-09 21:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being lonely doesnt have to hurt there are many ways to ammuse yourself try conversing online or go to one of those dating websites there are all kinds of ways to make new friends
go to the grocery store and squeeze some melons
2006-10-09 21:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up and join the party. Life is lonely and most of us hurt. Who really cares? No one.
2006-10-09 21:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
being lonely really hurts...we cant control being lonesome
but you can try even if you are alone not to be lonely..
i am lonely but im trying to get past it..
2006-10-09 21:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by carmel1981 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U don't have to.. It is not so bad being lonely... U can meet people...
Just don't think about it...
2006-10-09 21:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by Gabi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all ever heard of reach out try touch some body there?? we dont know your age or anything, but, you dont have any friends at all too sit right downe and talk this thing out about your lonilness what so ever none?/ or do you just go threw scholl(if thats the case here a age bracket would have solvedd this demon) try and pick out like we said a friend at your scholl, and try and get them too try and at least do something about this miserable horrible esistance your going threw here sometimes you just have too do one thing COMMUNICATIONN!! god gave it too you use it, okay and we ae biting our nails that you arent thinking about -- committing suicide over this here!
2006-10-09 21:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey ya dont b lonely lol go find a girl or go drink or somethin lol have fun u only got this life lol
2006-10-09 21:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe the questions you should be asking are: why does it hurt? where does it hurt? if it hurts below the belt then you need sex, if in the chest, you somebody to love. if it hurt all over then you need a doctor.
QUICKLY!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 21:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by biboy1437 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋