what if your boyfriend hits you should you still go out with him?

Answer 1

If you go out with him you deserve to be hit.

Answer 2

No. Under no circumstances do you ever deserve to be hit. A lot of women are in an abusive relationship and do not know how to get out or are too financially reliant on their partners to leave. But if you don't have either one of these problems you should just tell this man that you do not deserve to be treated this way and you refuse to subject yourself from such disrespect from someone that is supposed to care about you. Respect and love yourself to get up and walk out. NO MAN IS WORTH GETTING HIT FOR. And it is also true that once an abuser always an abuser. No matter what he says or how much he promises if he hit you once he will do it again. Leave now before you subject yourself to any more abuse. I wish you the best of luck. Visit the sites below for more help.

Answer 3

Abusive behavior only gets worse. Women who stay in these relationships enable the abuser. The abuse intensifies over time and can possibly lead to threats of death.

CYCLE OF ABUSE

The Cycle of Abuse is a visual of a continual pattern that most abusive relationships follow.


1) The cycle starts with a honeymoon stage, which is exemplified as being a state when both partners are happy to be in a relationship, at this point the relationship is loving and enjoyable.

2) The tension phase is when the couple is getting into small arguments, and the abuser becomes frustrated with their partner.

3) The last stage is the abuse stage. This stage is usually the shortest stage and the most harmful. This stage is based on one specific incident that leads to an explosion of anger.

4) The abuser quickly defaults into the honeymoon stage to make up for their behavior.

Once the cycle is in place it becomes difficult to break. Visually, the cycle shows the different stages and the roles that the abuser and victim take in each stage; it also visualizes the length of time of each stage. The cycle of abuse is based around victim denial, because when the victim denies what is happening, there is no way to stop the pattern.

Answer 4

Do you think he likes you? That isn't love, that is selfishness on his part and he won't change. He may not hit you again for 2-3 months, but you will have invested more time and feelings in what you were hoping to be a possible relationship. Do you really want to wait for the next unexpected hit? Like yourself. God loves you and He did not create you to be a punching bag.

Answer 5

Honey I feel for you, but like they all say if your willing to put up with it thats your stupidity. It will only get worse. If you allowing him to stay with you. Your allowing the situation to still occur.
Then he's going to think Yep she's gonna do what i say. Some men no offense to the good ones out there. Most men have this power trip and they think they can do what they want. But obviousily your not wanting this kind of relationship. I'm pretty sure there is someone out there who will treat you with the respect you need. Good Luck and dont put up with the abuse he could end up killing you

Answer 6

No way, you have a abusive partner and from here on out I can tell it will get worse. I have a friend who was with an abusive boyfriend and she is still in counseling after 4 years. Break up with him by phone or via email because he might get abusive when he finds out. After that, locks your doors & windows carefully, always keep a phone with 911 speed dial, and make sure to ignore all those little comments like saying he will commit suicide or that he will hurt you. If he does keep on continuing these tell him to stop...if he doesn't go ahead and sue him for harrasment.

Answer 7

Hi Kitty Kat,
First be careful and be thoughtful. Reflect. Its not unreasonable for a man to hit a woman in exceptional circumstances (hit, punch, slap?). However a lot of the advice you have had does warn you that this could be repeated. This could be his "style" of managing your life and his!

I think you have to ask yourself 2 questions first. Was this "hit" a controlled blow or a rage blow? What was it you were doing that made this happen, and was it an isolated incident? It is possible that you were hit for good reason (I cant think of one but you may have been up to no good- only you know that).
Many women stay in a relationship that is abusive for many reasons all of them complex but all of them create a trapped person.
If you think his behaviours unreasonable and completely out of character - ok watch and see. If it happens again..WALK AWAY - for good.. not maybe, but sure. People dont hit those they love unless they are deeply troubled. Remember, because you asked this question you already have a level of concern. Take care! Be happy, thats your prime objective- dont lose it ^_^

Answer 8

No! No guy has a right to hit a woman. No matter what lame excuse he uses, you don't deserve that. It's just a lame excuse to beat a woman and that isn't right. He has problems and he shouldn't take them out on you. Leave him or you might end up dead. It's happened before and it will happen again. Get out before something serious happens.

Answer 9

Leave him! Thats called abuse sister! And trust me if he has it in him to hit you once, it'll happen agian! You call him right away and tell him your worth more that that and you diserve better, then if your still afraid you can call the cops and get a restraining order put on him. But for the love of God dont stay!

Answer 10

Well it's easier said than done to tell you to just dump him. Does he do this often or was this a first time thing? Does he have anger problems or maybe did you provoke him to hit you? Talk to him. I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt if this is a first time thing but honestly, if he did this once he will more than likely do it again!

Answer 11

no. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years...he never hit me in those two years...but then it started. He pushed, hit, he was very controlling. It got out of hand. dont let that happen to you.