Okay well I have a guy friend, who has been friends with me for 9 years. Well we went out and at that moment we knew it wasn't going to work out. So we broke up the next day, believe me major pressure. Well now a month and a half later, I figured out a still like him! He has a girlfriend, but his friend, who is also my friend told me she is ugly, and has no clue why my friend is dating her. And that I'm prettier. My friend who called her ugly said my other friend still has feelings for me. I told me friend with the girlfriend, and now he knows and he's confused and I'm confused, and my other friend and I are convinced he doesn't want to tell because he doesn't want a repeat of last time. So whats next? His girlfriend doesn't even go to our school. Soo whats next? Please give me helpful advice cause I am confused beyond belief!
2006-10-09 14:00:02 · 9 answers · asked by Lovely_Lady™ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just try talking to him. Do you share similar interests? Have lunch or dinner with him, but don't call it a date. see how that goes. maybe your feelings for each other are real, but your previous relationship as just friends is hindering your new relationship with each other. just be honest with each other, and tell each other the feelings you have.
2006-10-09 14:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by CreativeGEEK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, why do you think it might work out now when it was so clear it wouldn't work before? Maybe you still like him, but maybe as a friend? Could that be what you miss? ...the friendship? Or could there be just a little bit of jealousy, now that someone else has him, because it seems to work for them and you wonder why it couldn't work for you? Sometimes we want what we can't have just a little bit more... could the fact that he's with someone else now have that effect on what you're feeling now? It doesn't matter if she's ugly or that you're prettier in the long run, what will matter is the relationship you end up with and how well it works. Sometimes relationships with friends you've had for years just can't seem to change and they remain friends, even tho you might wonder why it couldn't be something more. Life's just funny that way. Sometimes it's worth holding on to a friendship like that rather than ruining it with a "relationship". I think a lot of this will be up to the guy now, and perhaps if he becomes "free" again you two will explore the possibility again, whether you can possibly make a relationship work... or not. Good luck to you, and I hope you both find what you really want out of your relationship... friendship, or otherwise.
2006-10-09 21:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by duskie78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first things first, looks aren't everything. We all get old and wrinkled. A relationship should be about everything but looks.
You have to be able to make each other laugh. You have to understand each other. Are you just happy to be sitting in the same room with him?
Be honest with him. Tell him how you feel but don't expect him to dump the other girl and run back to you. It might never happen. But, at least you will know you let him know how you felt and didn't just leave it unsaid.
You also have to wonder why his friend has been saying the things he said?? What's in it for him? Talk to the boy you like yourself. Don't go on second hand information.
Good luck, relationships can be hard, but when you find the right partner it soooooooo worth it. :-)
2006-10-09 21:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by red260z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, this is how it always goes. The other girl is always uglier. Just move on and find a new. More fish in the sea...Why just fight over one? It didn't work out the first time, so why waste time? Life is too short to deal with petty stuff...Just move forward.
2006-10-09 21:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! thats a hard situation. Well all i can say is to have a long conversation with this person u supposivley have feelings for. And decide who likes who, and see if he's really happii in his realationsip, because this could effect your friendship.
2006-10-09 21:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bree M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your guy friend is still with that "ugly girl", then I suggest you to let them be and not tamper with their relationship. Try to snatch him when he is single again. If you intervien with their relationship, it's gonna come back and bite you in the ***. What goes around comes around. It's very real. GOod luck
2006-10-09 21:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by SD CHARGERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is talk to your friend and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Tell him what is on your mind and let him know that you still like him.
2006-10-09 21:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go tell him how you feel! He obviously feels the same way. You two will figure it out from there I'm sure!! Good luck!!
2006-10-09 21:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confused? So am I. So, what - you like him he likes her and she likes to fetch. Right? So, go to him and say, "To hell with the uggo.. come home with me." Or words to that effect
2006-10-09 21:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋