Last night I had sex with this girl for 3 and a half hours and did not have an orgasm. She was mad with me because I did not orgasm. Is this normal? She said she had plenty of orgasms she was mad that i didnt have mine. I didnt use anything I didnt even use a condom. I had no problems staying up but everytime I would be about to orgasm the sensation would leave me. It felt good i just couldnt orgasm this also was the second time we have had sex and I didnt orgasm the first time either... I can orgasm through masterbation. AM I GAY or something?
2006-10-09 13:45:55 · 30 answers · asked by racso329 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not gay, just nervous.
2006-10-09 13:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by SANDRA Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not gay just u can't orgasm with a girl. but your the only one who can answer that question. u might have been very nervous. don't think about having an orgasm just let it happen. it takes time to get the hang of sex. also u might be masterbating to much. if u do then it takes forever to orgasm and could take along time for it to finaly happen. u also have to be attracted to the girl so ask yourself that before u think your gay.
2006-10-09 13:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ashe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The impulse can rush to the pleasure centers and trigger an orgasm only if the amygdala – the fear and anxiety center of the brain – has been deactivated.” Any worry, anxiety-provoking or randomly stressful thought passing through your head right before or during sex has the power to “interrupt the march toward orgasm.”
2006-10-09 13:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Laugh Now Cry Later 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doens't sound like you are Gay if you like women. Sometimes our bodies become accostomed (more like trained) to only Orgasm one way (in your case, that would be by masturbation). This is normal. Just take more time with your girl next time, practice makes perfect, you can "retrain" your body to orgasm during intercourse. I do suggest using some kind of brith control though. 3 hours of bliss is NOT WORTH 18 years of responibility if you are not ready for it. The reason why your girl was upset was because SHE felt bad about you not getting off, she probably felt like she was the problem. So don't take it to heart. Just reassure her that everyhting is cool.
2006-10-09 13:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's actually not as "unheard of" as you might think - I've faced a simular situation, Would build up, but couldn't orgasm ... It was an emotional thing, not a sexual thing. I couldn't bring myself to quite connect, and thus, wan't able to be "fully" satisfied. Once I worked out that issue, I was good to go again. Look deeper, might not even be a sexual problem.
P.S. You're only "gay" if you're having sexual desires for other guys and chicks just don't "do it" for ya.
2006-10-09 13:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not gay. She is upset because she feels inadequate. That is not the case. After she is satisfied, ask to go down on you. Use fantasy - the kind you use when masturbating. You can share it with her or not. It will work! This could be a good thing if you keep ego's out of the way. Lovemaking should be fun and enjoyable for both parties Talk with her.
2006-10-09 13:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should use a condom , in the back of your head somewhere you may be thinking if I have an orgasm she could become pregnant..or is she on the pill..if not it's probably a good thing you didn't...try protection...
2006-10-09 13:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys have problems like that. You are not gay though, you just have a little trouble thats all. You was probably nervous. Try some new techniques and positions to see if that help. Have her to do other thing like.....____________, ( I dont think I can say that on here but anyway), have her try some new things if shes ok with it and see if that works. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 13:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you realize you are about to orgasm and the realization distracts you from it for a second...which is long enough to send you back to the beginning again.
2006-10-09 13:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by his girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not gay man haha your probably just nervous or your thinkin about it too much or shes not hot enough for ya. thats probably why shes mad , she may think that thge reason why you dont orgasim is because shes not attractive enough. if your concerned about bein gay, like if shes not attractive to you and no girls are then MAYBE you could be, try having sex with a guy i guess, if you like it your gay! (-: pretty simple method there a? lol
2006-10-09 13:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! YOU ARE NOT GAY!!!!
Great sex doesn't mean you have to gush out in an orgasm.
Sex is about the whole journey not just the ending!
Move on to another girl who enjoyed sex as much as you did.
2006-10-09 13:49:51 · answer #11 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋