should u talk to ur x no matter what? me and her broke up because she thought i loved her, but i still may like her, but i never loved her i just liked her alot and she was very compassionte to me, but when it came to dating she was a different person...what do i do?
2006-10-09 13:41:29 · 20 answers · asked by BRIAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well.. if u didnt love her.. then maybe u should consider moving on, keep her as a good friend (only if she is ok with it).
there r lots of girls out there ;)
2006-10-09 13:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you may know this answer already. Use your insides to be your guide. You don't love her...like her yes. Give it some space and time. She is your X after all. Also agape love still is love. You can love someone and NOT BE INVOLVED spell it out to her. Be clear in what you want. If you do keep in contact say you want to take a break from it for 3 months. See what happens. Sometimes time and specific time is the right answer. This way she can heal and you can move on. Don't ever just jump into anything use your head and heart not your loins. Lust will ever hurt you in the long run. Be untuitive and bold in your honesty. To second guess someone can only leave both of you confused. I say Give it time.
2006-10-09 13:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are capable of being friends, I don't see why not. You obviously were together for a reason. There was some kind of connection there to begin with. Just because you didn't fall in love doesn't mean you did not form some kind of bond. Sometimes exes make some of the best friends. The only awkward area is when it comes to new boyfriends/girlfriends. As long as you avoid that area, it usually works out.
2006-10-09 13:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
last year i ended a three year relationship (long time for a 20yrold) and we tried to be friends straight off the bat, because we still had feelings for each other and i began dating someone else it was too hard. we didn't talk for three months and now, we're like the best of friends and she's helping me through my recent break up. i believe time is important. important friendships are too good to lose, and sometimes they need work and time. wait it out for a while and see. but at the end of the day you already know what you want - go with your gut :)
2006-10-09 13:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by trudie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're so afflicted then you definately ought to talk on your guy and do it genuine away. you are able to not bypass around having those style of emotions and have confidence subject concerns in case you prefer to stay with him not to show marry him. it could have been incorrect for you to have been finding at his cellular telephone messages yet you probably did so in simple terms tell him if he would not understand already and make him comprehend as quickly as and for all which you at the instant are not happy approximately him speaking to his ex. exceptionally if she remains telling him she misses him and stuff like that. I mean if he extremely does not have emotions for her from now on then speaking to her isn't probably a huge deal yet while he does this is worry and you should make useful his emotions are purely platonic for her. refer to him and be truthful approximately your emotions. stick on your heart. a minimum of then you definately would understand for useful how your guy feels and what is going on. good success!
2016-11-27 03:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no rule that you must remain friends with your ex. In fact some would highly recommend that you don't. If you know that you never loved her and she may still have feelings for you it may be best for you to stay away.
2006-10-09 13:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by solgiver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont thing you should talk to her if she changed when yall started dating. If you were already good friends then well there is nothing wrong but if yall only dated No dont talk to her. When peole all of a sudden change on you when other things change, thats a sign right there, that they are not right for you.
2006-10-09 13:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yed you should still talk to her. my x adn i still talk ane we are very good friends. it depend how old you are to cuz in u are still in grade school then not loving her may be okay right nw but if u like 20 then u may just want to be friends cuz now that ur getting older u don't want to be just playing someone
2006-10-09 13:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when you talk to her it is just friend talk not flirting and if you are flirting you need to decide if she is right for you in this part of your life if not just be friends and see where it takes you and of course it is ok unless you are flirting and you have a girlfriend.
2006-10-09 13:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the nature of your break up. Also, it depends on whether both of you have moved on enough to deal with it. I still talk to several of my ex's
2006-10-09 13:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by mybrainhurts11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋