2006-10-09 13:40:52 · 13 answers · asked by Alonza 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
depends on how you plan to get rid of him...
2006-10-09 13:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids have seen their father like twice in the last 10 years. They know that this is by his choice and that it has nothing to do with them. I have always been very honest with them, although I only tell them as much as they can understand. When they were very little and would ask about him, I just explained that he has a lot of problems. I told them that I hoped one day he would get his act together and be a dad to them. As they got older they would ask if he drank and used drugs (yes and yes) and if that was why he didn't come to see them. The good part is that they both know firsthand how drug abuse affects people, and not just the abuser. The sad part is the same lesson.
But they know that I love them enough for 100 fathers and that their mom would NEVER choose drugs or anything else over them. They also understand that it would not be healthy to have a relationship with him as long as he chooses his current lifestyle. What you should do, now and always, is what you know is the best thing for your child. Even if it's the most difficult path for you. The road ahead is a bumpy one, Sugar. I wish you strength, patience and every happiness.
2006-10-09 21:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a hard thing to answer. If the dad is really into bad things(drugs, guns, etc) then the child should be kept from contact. It only hurts the child worse as they get older if they have a semi-relationship w/ a parent and BOOM suddenly that person can't see them anymore(because of jail, or negligence, whatever) Think of the childs best interests, try to imagine how he/she would feel, instead of yourself. Remember children love their parents no matter what(til they get to be teens!) Hope that helps.
2006-10-09 20:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by nada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby was adopted by his step dad.........his biolgical father gave him up and paid for the adoption.
His mom and step dad NEVER ever said anyhting bad about the biological father and he was allowed to still see my hubby while he grew up.
One day my hubby came home and told his mom"I know why you divorced that SOB"...........my hubby figured out what he was like. They never said anything bad about him at all .
Let the child have contact with his father. Boys want to be like their dad. Or a girl might care less.
BUT DO NOT keep the dad around only for the child. It has to be for you too...........or you will be misserable..........but allow the contact of the child and father to continue or the child might grow up wanting to know where their dad is and why he isn't around and the child might resent you for not allowing their dad to be around
2006-10-09 21:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by krayzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's best for your baby sweetie!
I the dad is a bum and don't want anything in life then I wouldn't want my child around that. If he is not going to be a strong male figure and role model then try not to let the child around him.....chances are if he is truly no good...he won't even try to get custody.
2006-10-09 22:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by ☺Inquisitive 1☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, can you do that? I mean, will the father go to court to attempt to gain custody?
But you've got to worry about your baby. It's true that the kid will grow up not knowing who his/her dad is, but that's better than hating his/her dad forever because he was a horrible influence. I know plenty of kids who have grown up without knowing their fathers -and they turn out alright.
2006-10-09 20:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by el_scorcho6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you think he would be better without him. I mean, it is important for the child to have his father in his life, but then again if the father abuses him verbally, sexually, or physically then of course you shouldnt keep him around.
2006-10-09 20:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the dad, your attention should be on having your baby grow up health. As long as you can support the baby alone or with family help!
2006-10-09 20:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Des 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I THINK ITS A GOOD IDEA TO KEEP THE DAD INTO THE BABYS LIFE I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO NOT HAVE A FATHER AND ITS NOT THAT PLEASANT!!
2006-10-09 20:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the Dad.
2006-10-09 20:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the dad around cuz u wouldnt not want ur child growing up not knowing who the father is wouldnt u want2 knw who farther is.....so keep it around
2006-10-09 20:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋