I have been with my girlfriend whom I hope to propose to soon. She was telling me a few minutes ago that how could I want to get married and stuff. That I still depend on my mom to wake me up, fix me lunch, and etc. My mom and I don't really have a great relationship but I do respect my mother even though there are times she may not be deserving. I think that is part of what makes me the loving guy that I am and maybe my girlfriend doesn't appreciate that or at least that is how I feel. I live at home with my mom, l am 18 and I have taken on more responsibilities since my dads' death in December. I didn't know my girflriend then and really for the most part I have become more appreciative. I know my girlfriend knows that my mom doesn't treat me all that great but I still love her even when she pisses me off. I know my mom has a lot on her plate and I try to understand that! I just don't like my girlfriend calling me a mommas boy like it makes me unable to care for myself.
2006-10-09 13:37:43 · 27 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most "mama's boys" end up being good sons. Enjoy!
2006-10-09 13:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Saffernellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your mom does have a lot on her plate right now and a mother always deserve respect. She has just lost her husband and her friend.You have just lost your dad and things are still happening fast. Now is the time for you and your mom to form a closer bond(get closer).I am sure she does things to get o n your nerves and vise versa.Women sometimes grieve harder than men. It will take her sometime to just be patient. She needs you right now.You need to step up and be the man around the house.Your actions should show your girlfriend that you are not a mothers boy. Dont stop doing things for your Mom just to please your girlfriend.You want to propose to this female that you have know less than a year and that you dont think appreciates how you feel? Can you provide for a wife and a family? I would suggest waiting until you have you fiances in order and you dont have to depend on anyone except yourself.
2006-10-09 13:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't agree with your girlfriends assessment of you, then it would seem that she doesn't really know you all that well.
If you think you have taken on a lot of responsibilities since your Dad's passing, then you should try living on your own, with a WIFE, & family.
At 18, you are so young. It's not necessary to be thinking of marriage at this time in your life. Think about getting the best education you can. You & this girl aren't ready for marriage if you can't agree on a simple & fundamental thing like your relationship with your mother.
Keep her as a girlfriend, do some more maturing, get your life established, be more secure about yourself. Then start thinking about marriage.
2006-10-09 13:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...I disagree with your girl friend on her opinion about you...You love your mom despite the fact that you have not a great relationship
with her, you respect your mom although some time she does not deserve your respect and , for the most part, you have become more appreciative of her. You are so honest, you can see the pro and the con. Can't your girl
friend see that you have a great love in your heart and that there is room for her and also for your mom ? I do not appreciated her animosity toward her, it make me think that she consider your Mom a rival when the real
rival is her jealousy and the unwanted prospective of sharing your love.
2006-10-09 14:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of a good thing to be a momma's boy,wait a little while to marry her,never know how life will turn,ur only 18,just finishing highschool,give it some time. Get 4 years of college in first. Then think about it.
2006-10-09 13:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ramon O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a "momma's boy"! Guys who respect their mothers end up respecting their wives. Your girlfriend should be happy she's found such a nice guy.
And just because you live with your mom certainly doesn't mean you're not able to take care of yourself. Sometimes moms just like to do things for their sons. My 25-year-old brother still lives with our mom and dad (in my family, adult children live with parents until they get married) and mom will still fix him meals and do things for him. And vice-versa.
Oh, and I'd like to offer my most sincere condolences on the passing of your father last December. Your mom's lucky she has such a good son.
2006-10-09 13:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things: 1) I agree with your girlfriend that marriage shouldn't be in the picture until you are completely independant, and not relying on your mother to wake you up and fix you lunch. This means that she wants to know that you'll be able to take care of her, and you'll be able to stand up for her and for the two of you. I'm sure she is also not wanting to get married because she might be afraid that you'll expect her to start acting like your mother. 2) You are SO young! Please, get a place of your own, have a good paying job before you get married. Get yourself established, get a sense of who your really are. I know you might be thinking "well i already know who i am", people change over time! When you're 18, it's hard to really know where you want to go in life and who you really are. My father passed away when i was 11. I know how it is to loose someone that close to you. But please take it slow in your relationship, time will tell if it was meant to be. Good luck to you and your girlfriend! :-)
2006-10-09 13:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I do appreciate your Mother and what she does for you Matthew and you know that. I so care for you and I know how hard it is on you for loosing your best friend, your father. I am so sorry for your loss. You ARE a Momma's Boy though, and that's ok...most men are. I just wish your Mom knew about us and since she doesn't makes it even harder on me. You ARE a very loving, caring, respectful, giving person and I love you for that.
2006-10-09 13:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel, that this make u very umcomfortable, if she continues ask her if u are the person she really wants to be with, if she thinks because u respect your mom just because of the way she treats u and that u are a real man. because everyone know that if u treat your mom good it usually the way you'll treat your lady...love or leave it
2006-10-09 13:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what keep that chin up, Why dont you tell your girlfriend how you feel. You sound like a decent guy, so maybe you should let her know how you feel. If you feel comfortable talking to your mom then you should do that to, maybe it'll bring you to closer? Good Luck and dont feel down about this.
2006-10-09 13:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Barrelracergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is sweat if u are wanting a answer from a guy u are out of luck because iam a girl. anyway u can tell here u like your mom but i dont like the name mommas boy but.... personaly i like that it is sweat. boys are cute when they are with there mom in my eyes anyway i hope i gave u a good answer. and u got to tell her u dont like it and wait a little more on the marrige thing u are only 18.
2006-10-09 13:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by me! myself! and guys! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋