She says hi and smiles at me when we see each other in the halls. I’ve liked her for so long now but we’ve only been friends for about 2 weeks. It was hard introducing myself to her since I didn’t want to say anything lame or make a stupid joke.
It frustrates me that I can’t just go up to her like I do with my other friends and just have a normal conversation without getting so nervous. I swear she’s the only girl that has this effect on me. I need some good advice..
2006-10-09 13:31:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Write a script with multiple possible answers to keep the conversation going.Study it to give you confidence. Be a good listener and don't interrupt ,smile and pretend to act confident. Stand tall and maintain eye contact but don't stare, don't brag and try to talk about her or other things than yourself and have a plan to ask her out. You feel this way because you are infatuated
and that's only part of it, but you gotta go for it. What's the worst that can happen and then what's the best that can happen. Sit down and think and plan and what will probably happen is that you will toss the plan and be spontaneous and that's OK, but the plan will give you the courage. You only live once so go for it!
2006-10-09 13:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Saladmaster22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she probably feels the same way. Just keep doing what you're doing. Build up your confidence with little conversations and take baby steps. Ask for an email or phone number, using the excuse that you want someone to call if you miss a class. Then purposely miss a class, call her for homework...and if the conversation seems to be flowing well, ask her if she wants to go out for coffee or something. It's usually easier to ask someone out over the phone because they don't have to see you sweating, lol.
2006-10-09 20:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said. you don't "know" this girl you simply know you're attracted to her....so, it's" been" hard, (as in past tense) to go up to her and introduce yourself...Think worse case scenario....you go up to her, say hi! I'm ----- I just want to tell you you've got a beautiful smile and it makes my day when I see you. Worse case scenario major earthquake strikes and you both die right there in the school hallway !!!! After you make contact, actually speak to her... she'll probably smile from ear to ear...say I hope I didn't embarrass you. Then---- well I don't want to be late for class I'll see ya! Smile and walk away...the next time you see her you'll be able to say Hi !------At that time you can always ask her if she's planing on going to , ( what ever school activity you'd like to ask her to) ask can I call you? If she says yes take it from there. When you meet up at the school activity when its the right time you can let her know how nervous you were to approach her...I'll bet she'll be flattered and she'll be more attracted to you for sharing your feelings! If you simply can't approach her then maybe you're just not ready...if ya snooze you may loose!
2006-10-09 20:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue doing what you're doing. The easy conversation will come in time. My boyfriend and I had been going out for a year before I could even talk to him like I did anyone else. But we've been going out for five years now, so obviously we figured it out. I hope everything goes okay!
2006-10-09 20:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has put a spell on you...(",)
Communicate to her just how you feel towards hers. By honestly expressing how you feel to her - you will not only make it so much easier to talk to her, but also she will know how you feel. You may be very surprised with the outcome....
If you don't express how you feel, you may lose the opportunity to really getting to know this person. Someone else may beat you to it.
You never know, maybe she thinks the same towards you.
2006-10-09 20:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Attitudes are hard to get past.If she has one, that could hold you back,
It's hard to just walk up to someone and start talking, not knowing how she will react.
Your nerveousness around her might mean that it really matters what she thinks of you.
You should just be yourself. talk to her,You will become more comfortable with each conversation.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 21:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be nervous next time you talk to her. let her see the real you-invite her to hang out with you and some friends at lunch, and let her bring one of her friends so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. get to know the real her, and maybe you'll find out why you act odd around her. (maybe you really like her)
2006-10-09 20:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by charmed avatar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋