My boyfriend lives with his babymomma but she knows about me and hates me with a passion. This has been going on for about a year and some change. He comes and stays with me some nights and we're ALWAYS together. Am I stupid for staying with this person or is it true love?
2006-10-09 13:10:37 · 39 answers · asked by achick1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all I would like to thank everyone for their answers. My boyfriend and myself went over the answers together and he said I didn't put all the details into my question and that I should elaborate the situation. The whole story: She lives with HIM, it is HIS house, he owns his own business, he moved her down here because she couldn't provide for herself nor their children and she had absolutely no where else to go, she told him she would let the children go into a shelter before she would send them down here to live with him. Not only that but she told him she wouldn't let the children come down here without her. Now that she's here she won't get a job, she says she's not leaving his house and now that she's been there for almost a year he thinks he'll have 2 give her his house if he motions to have her evicted. He is not a deadbeat. He truely is a good man 2 me and his children. Out of 7 days out of the week 5 1/2 of the days we're together. So tell me is it STUPIDITY or LOVE?
2006-10-11 07:58:04 · update #1
It sounds like you're pretty stupid.
Sounds like you're another one of those people that just NEEDs constant drama and constant problems. See you on Maury or Jerry Springer soon enough.
Loser.
2006-10-09 13:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It must be true love and I feel sorry for you. I don't know your boyfriend but it sounds like he has a good deal there. The fact that
you're asking this question here at Answers shows that you know
this situation isn't good for you,and I think you probably already know that sooner or later a choice has to be made. He has to choose one of you,or you have to choose to leave. It wouldn't be
healthy to let things stay as they are indefinitely and you have to look out for yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-09 13:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Is that what you think you deserve? I have a kid and I am not with the father and we have both moved on but before he left he did the same thing...You really don't know the situation because you haven't talked to her . I know for a fact that he is still f**k'n her and you need to think about what it is that's so good about this man that will make you lower your self and deal with a man like this. Why is he still living with this broad? Why is she dealing with him knowing his fu*king you? The answer is because he is playing you both and there is a big difference between love and stupidity!
2006-10-09 13:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in love you do stupid things...but i really think you should get out of the situation because if he cared about you as much as you cared about him...he wouldn't be living with his babymother...I know you don't want to hear this but you need a reality check..HE IS USING YOU!!!! He's never going to move out his babymother's house because you allow him to live there and still come and lay with you so in his eye he feels he has it made. Put your foot down girl! If he really loves you then he will move out.
2006-10-09 13:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sexii Slim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't be involved with any man that lived with his baby's Mama. They have a kid together, so you know they have had sex. What's to stop them from doing it again? Why is he even living with her if they aren't together (other than the kid)? I would evaluate his reasoning for even living there. Think about it too, what will happen if your relationship goes father? Are you going to move into the same place with him and his baby's Mama?
2006-10-09 13:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't he moved in with you if you two are together? He does not have to live with his baby's mother. I wouldn't stay unless there was some sort of change in the situation.
2006-10-09 13:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can say if it's true love or not. Don't listen to none of these fools saying you're stupid or whatever. They just mad cuz they ain't got no1 to love they ***. But anyways, if you don't feel right being with him, then don't. If you do, then be with him. Honey life is too too short, live it out fully and don't listen to none of these fools. Lols...
2006-10-09 13:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youve stayed with him this long and you havent left then you must really love him. but its kinda wierd that he hasnt quit living with her. i mean he can still want to help and be the babys dad but that doesnt mean he has to live there. he can do that without living there. you know? just keep it going for a while. and see if anything changes.... but.
are you for sure he loves you back???
because if he does he should so go ahead and get his life going without staying with his babys momma.
2006-10-09 13:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by whitney t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like you have very much self-esteem. There are so many wonderful men out there, why are you choosing to be with someone that obviously has another woman to squeeze. Get strong and leave this two-timer.
2006-10-09 13:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by bluemustang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not stupid, but consider that if he doesn't want to marry you and make this a permanent relationship, you should cut all ties with him. Real love is forever and if it's real love one person doesn't ask another to do things that are not right.
2006-10-09 13:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by Richard E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not stupid, but you need to move on. He lives with another woman and wants to sleep with you also. He has a child and didn't bother getting married. I think it's time to move on.
2006-10-09 13:14:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋