Can't I be a Christian and still have pre-marital sex?

Question

C'mon man....is Jesus really going to deny me gettting some trim if I want to be a Christian? I mean, what if I don't WANT to get married..does that mean I'm supposed to just give up sex?

No folks, listen; I'm not GOING to repent and try not to have sex....I'm telling you that I know it's a sin and I'm gonna keep on doing it!

Answer 1

Sweetie, that's between you and Jesus. You know in your heart what you're supposed to do and feel. He forgives us for our sins, but you have to stop doing it. I know you aren't going to stop, so I guess you're kind of stuck. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Answer 2

The root of the word Christian comes from Christ, so to truly be a Christian you need to follow Christ. All of us sin thus this is why he suffered for us. To believe in that atonement of his suffering is to really believe and call yourself a Christian. We can still be Christian and break the laws that God institutes. But it makes him sad because we cannot truly he happy or feel true joy if we make choices that make Him sad.

If anyone wants to dispute what I've said above then you need only read the bible. It is the book of Faith used by Christians. Below are only a few verses from the good book, but there are so many other verses that clearly state that Christ does not consider fornication (pre-marital sex) a righteous choice.

1 Corinthians 6:9
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, or idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

Also

1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

You can claim yourself any faith you want, but to truly be a follower of that faith you try to live the precepts of it's founder.

Luke 22: 39-44
39 And he came out, and went, as he was awont, to the mount of Olives; and his disciples also followed him.
40 And when he was at the place, he said unto them, Pray that ye enter not into temptation.
41 And he was withdrawn from them about a stone’s cast, and kneeled down, and prayed,
42 Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.
43 And there appeared an angel unto him from heaven, strengthening him.
44 And being in an agony he prayed more earnestly: and his sweat was as it were great drops of blood falling down to the ground.
Matt. 26: 28
28 For this is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many for the remission of sins.

Christ suffered so much for us because of a love for us that we can never comprehend. For this suffering all He ask in return is we try to obey the commandments and laws that will make us feel true happiness, not just momentary pleasure.

Sounds to me like you already know the answer though or it wouldn't be eating at you conscience to even ask this question.

Also ya know when it comes to spiritual matters the best way is to find out for yourself what you feel to be the best thing that will bring you joy. No one can tell you that in any answer given here or anywhere. If you don't have you’re own copy of the scriptures then here is a link that will take you to the King James Version, the most widely used version by Christians.

Answer 3

Well, to be a true Christian you'd have to listen to Jesus and his teachings right? Well his teachings are in the bible, and this is the place he instructs us to go for guidance. Read scriptures like 1 Corintians 6:13,18, and 1 Thessalonians 4:3 which tells us that "God wills that you abstain from fornication.". The apostle Paul states many, many times over that we are to flee from these acts of the flesh. The bible compares those who engage in these acts as murderers, adulters, idolators, etc. Obviously pre-marital sex is something that true Christians will obstain from. Anyone can claim to be Chrisitan, even murderers, people who adultrate, etc, but as Matthew 7:20 brings out, a tree will be recognized by the fruit it produces. So what kind of fruit are you producing by your acts? Remember that's how you'll be judged, by your fruits. One final scripture; Matthew 19:26 With God all things are possible. Question being are you using God to help you live your life in harmony with his requirements?

Answer 4

Uh, NO!
That does mean you should give up sex!
Did you know that pre-marital sex is one of the top things the Lord despises?

I can't believe that you even bother asking this question, you see, just by you asking this question shows that you know it is wrong (or at least you're not sure), speak to your pastor about it, he'll have the scriptures I'm sure.

Think about it, your virginity is the only thing you really have, and once that's gone, you have nothing!
Don't give it up to someone that you're not going to be with your whole life, BELIEVE ME, it's not worth it!

(But to answer your question, I still believe that the only thing that you could do to make Jesus deny you of heaven is blasphemy. So you could still be a christian, but that doesn't mean that you should still do it).

Answer 5

Contrary to popular belief in this country, the institution of marriage has nothing to do with the church. It is came about in the early middle ages as a way for the local rulers to codify inheritance and property rights. In most European countries, a wedding has to be performed by a municipal registrar. It may be followed by a church ceremony, but that is not a requirement.

Answer 6

Truth be told whether they admit it or not the vast majority of Christians did have sex before marriage. In polls among different groups there was only a small difference. In fact if you have alot of Christian friends I think you would be surprised what a large percentage of their marriages were rushed along due to unexpected visitors.

Answer 7

Well, your question seems to be asked in a kind of facetious tone, but as a matter of fact, I don't think you necessarily need to follow any particular code regarding sexuality other than the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Do you want to use girls and then toss them aside like a used kleenex? You wouldn't want to be treated that way. But if you are in a very respectful relationship, and you are showing honor to your partner as well as sharing the joyful pleasure that comes with being a flesh and blood human being, I don't think Jesus would damn you for that. It really is what's in your heart that counts the most. A lot of Christians will disagree. You have to decide what works for you.

Answer 8

If you're a Christian, and I'm not so sure what to think from the question...then do you honestly think that Jesus would later say "Nope, you had premaritel sex, no heaven for you."...?

With that said, it is most commonly thought of as a sin, and continuing to do stuff like that is sometimes called "cheap grace" - or a license to sin.

Answer 9

Lord have mercy on this young man. No! No pre-marital sex coz im sure the ladies that ur having sex r having sex with other guys and u would not want to marry them in other words spend the rest of ur life with them! And also there is no sin goes unpunish! u will be punish for ur actions even in ur very thoughts u sin and ur being punish for it! sex without marriage is fornication and God speaks against fornication!

Answer 10

Being a Christian isn't about doing everything just right. Plus, the Bible says to replenish the Earth but it doesn't ever say "Don't replenish the Earth before you're legally married" so you shouldn't worry about that. Of course it's not good to make a habit of it, but you know.