All/Most of my friends have and I really want to it's just that I'm way too shy. And I cannot cannot approach a guy I like. I have had PLENTY of long-term crushes and stuff but have never done anything about them, just ignore them and stuff! It's so bad, I want to change it but I am just 2 shy. And time is running out im a junior in high school already (who looks young which is prob a factor) what should i do, and don't say like "just go for it," b/c that won't help me. haha i need a miricle.
2006-10-09 12:53:19 · 13 answers · asked by tropical girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like me as a teenager! All through high school, I couldn't get a date. Too shy. But eventually I grew out of that shyness. You will, too.
I know you don't want to hear anyone say "go for it" but how is he going to know you like him if you don't tell him? He's not a mind-reader, you know. And I know the fear of rejection can be paralyzing. (So can the fear of being rejected and then having the prospect of everyone knowing about it.) But in 10 years from now, high school will be but a distant memory. Most of the people you know will have moved on. It's best not to spend the rest of your life wondering about that guy you liked but were too shy to talk to. Take it from someone who let lots of guys slip through her fingertips because she was too shy. (Yep. That's me!)
2006-10-09 13:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doll, you don't need a miracle, you just need some self confidence. See, it's a safe zone for you if you only have crushes, and never act on them, that way you don't have to do anything about it. You can hide behind those crushes and never have to put yourself out there. You may be shy, but you may not really have met the right guy for you yet. Sweetie, time is NOT running out because you a junior in high school, your life has just begun. If there is a guy that you like, maybe you can have a trusted friend who also knows him, casually introduce you to him, like "oh, I'd like you to meet my friend-------"
-(your name). Good Luck...
2006-10-09 20:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey gurl I am prob. on the same wavelength. I know what u mean ( u prob. hav no problems being friends with guys but just can't actually approach them or they may just think of you as a friend). Get a friend to realli get close to a guy u like and find out if they like u. If they do then u start to get close with a group of friends so your not by urself when talkin 2 the guy. Sometimes if u approach and get turned down u r embarresed so get some1 that don't like them to do the dirty work. If it doesn't work I am sorry.
GOOD LUCK HUNNZ HUNNZ BUNNZ
2006-10-09 20:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When You have a crush on someone, say at school, and you happen to glance at each other, DON'T TURN YOUR HEAD AWAY, say hi or give a smile, have a friend introduce you. Now you need to make a list of things you can talk about, so your prepared when your mind goes blank and keep it in your purse. Let the guy talk and ask a lot of questions so you look interested.
2006-10-09 20:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Maybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww sweetie!! You're not running out of time, you have your whole life ahead of you! I went through exactly the same thing in high school, and I met my boyfriend the summer after I graduated high school. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to date you, I'm sure. Try to speak up a little more, make it known that you're available. But don't feel that you're running out of time or you'll end up settling for less than what you deserve. Hang in there, your time will come. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-09 20:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is running out?? huh? what's the hurry? The right guy will find you. be patient and stop trying to grow up so fast.
I'm a 40 year old father of girls just a bit older than you. And I used to be a 16 year old boy. Back then, I was a creep. We are all creeps back then. stay away from the boys until they grow into men!
2006-10-09 19:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, all dilemmas, in conservative domains like ours, certainly admitting your feelings to a boy is bad, and the punishment: that boy will treat you with contempt, and so does his friends. Just admit your feelings, if you are no close friend to him, then, do not divulge your identity! But I do not say never reveal yourself! That is just an initial step! Then get to know him, develop his talents that you think you can also do, for him to notice you, and then take chances to be his friend, then finally, find out if he likes you or not. If he does not, repeat step two all over again, and/or have another boy as props to find out if he loves you or not.
2006-10-09 20:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lordimpalerthe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, tropical girl - remember monsoon season? It seems dry as the Gobi desert. Then boom! WOW. Heavy wetness. Same w/ love and like. Shy girls are a premium value when it comes to the quality guys. We guys are still learning how to tell dirty jokes in the bathroom. We're still about 2 years behind you. Don't give up on us.
2006-10-09 19:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until college. I promise you it'll change. Guys are more willing to ask girls out and such.
Right now, guys are immature anyway.
Real relationships dont usually happen, its all just teenaged drama.
So concentrate on school, and have fun with your friends!!
2006-10-09 19:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by kaye t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating in junior high school is WAY too young in my opinion. Wait until you are in high school. By then your shyness will probably have taken care of itself and you will be more worldly.
2006-10-09 19:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋