I've been dating this guy for a couple of months and I must say that I was really falling for him. The problem is that I've been so hurt by so many men that I really didn't know how to express myself so some nights not intentionally I would kind of blow him off and instead of coming to me telling me how he feel...he decided to confide into another female about his problems with me and it got to the point that she was referring to him as her boyfriend and decided to send me a message on myspace to make herself known to me. He claim it was nothing but she claim it was more than just friendship...i listen to both sides and both of their stories has a lot of things in it that don't add up...so i just decided to end it and now that i ended it...i have found out that she is trying to get with now! All i need to know is if i made the right decision?
2006-10-09 12:47:28 · 23 answers · asked by Sexii Slim 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well from the jump it sounds like a bunch of drama. He involved another female into yall's relationship. That is a no-no. What would he have done if you involved another guy? Then she is on the interent calling you out to people. Inviting folk into your personal business. So immature. Now that she is calling herself his girlfriend and he saying she is just a friend, who do you believe? I would not care, I would move on.
I know it is hard to express emotion after being hurt in a relationship but you need to seek God first and lay that burden at His feet and allow Him to send you that man you so badly want. God does not make mistakes. Maybe you need to take some time to heal and learn love yourself again. Do not take baggage into a relationship and sabotage it before it really gets off the ground. You could lost a good man that way.
Rest in God's arms, let Him bring you peace, and then let Him bring you that special man.
2006-10-09 12:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must of really liked you alot to confide into another female about you and him....sweetheart trust me men are not going to waist there time talking about a female that they are not interested in....what i think happened was she seen him at his most vulnerable point... and i think she started saying negative things about you...she probably told him to not waste his time on you....however she was comfortable enough to go to your myspace page and leave that message....but that don't mean nothing because females tend to claim guys all the time...and the guy has no idea that she's doing that...i can understand you not wanting to get hurt again...but you have to learn how to express yourself....so those around you can have a better understanding of you...now far as your situation goes...i'm guessing you think you made the wrong decision...or else you wouldnt be asking this question am i right?? however if it had been me she wouldnt have won that easy.... now if your unsure of the decision you made...call him and espress your feelings to him...and see where it goes from there good luck!!!
2006-10-09 20:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First a couple of months is not long enough for any kind of dicision making for a relationship. Seems you have not found the right guy yet. When you find the right guy you will never have aproblem opening up as you say. Because that speical someone will have you feelings so secure about yourself...so yes you did right...keep waiting that right one will come along...when you least expect it....
2006-10-09 19:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by possmdillolady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decisions of the heart is aways hard to understand and even harder to make. We go through (date) many people before we can find that one special person that will give your heart wings to fly with the eagles. By going through the dating process we grow as a person, we discover who we are as a person and who we want as a mate for life. Don't allow your past to interfere with you today, you could be missing out and not growing as a human being. Take life as it comes and live in today for today may be the day you find your one true love.
2006-10-09 19:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did, that doesn't sound healthy.
Find someone you are able to be comfortable with and feel completely safe talking with, it might take a while but you will get there. I have been hurt badly in the past too. Good luck :)
2006-10-09 19:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Em_butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always follow ur instincts, i dont know what didnt[ add up],but it sounds pretty bad.if he turned to another woman to {talk] about u, then somethings not right ... he should have come to u...u dont go looking outside a relationship for answers, until all other aveneus have been exhausted! he should have talked to u first. if u say things didnt add up, thats right they didnt! and no matter how long u work those numbers they probably never will. follow ur instincts they will guide u...good luck!
2006-10-09 19:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_amazing_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you made a mature decision.follow your gut instincts
never second guess yourself, If you feel the stories didn't add up
then you know that someone is playing games, Life too short.
2006-10-09 19:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by skl865 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you expect someone to come crawling back to you after you brushed him off. Appolgise because you are rude, you nust be kidding, serves you right, you should change your attitude and just maybe you will not get hurt. You pushed him away and someone else find him. It is a good catch for her as you have not appreciated what you had.
2006-10-09 19:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
2006-10-09 19:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Maybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't think you did the rite thing, and you need to tell your bf or your ex how you feel just tell him that you don't know if you want to believe his words, or fall inlove with him bc you been hurt by others and you don't want to do it again.
2006-10-09 19:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋