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Personal exercises, like breathing. But that just doesn't seem to work.

2006-10-09 12:37:13 · 15 answers · asked by ~beauty~ 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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i dont think breathing will help; try talking to friends on the phone for at least 20 minutes a day. talk to your family on the phone, invite friends over more often, introduce yourself to new people

2006-10-09 12:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Gale 3 · 0 0

my speech class helped me a lot. I am very shy and hate to speack in public. But in college I HAD to. After that speech class I have improved a lot my shyness. Now I dont get nervous before a presentation.
With other people I recommend that you feel confident about yourself. Do a little bit of role play. imagine you are th emost interesting person in the place and that others have nothing next to you.

2006-10-09 12:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 0 0

Put yourself in front of people and speak. Take a speech class. Try out for the school play, and if you don't make it, work backstage. Get a sales job, even part time. Join Toastmasters. Run for office. Breathing helps, but by itself is not enough.

2006-10-09 12:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by slippped 7 · 0 0

Try taking an acting or improv class. It will force you to get out there and speak in front of people. You'll find your shyness fade away the more you put yourself out there.

2006-10-09 12:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0 0

Learn to SMILE at every person you encounter during the day.

Learn to FLIRT a little bit when you're in a safe and non-threatening arena (ie, like with the cashier at the store).

Learn to say HI to people just for the fun of it.

Learn how to ask someone "how's your day going?" in passing.

2006-10-09 12:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I know you are looking for physical exercises, but here is a little advice that might help you out:

Make bold choices. Do things you normally would not do. Start putting yourself in challenging social situations. Find things that you love about people and tell them so. Have a conversation with a stranger or a friend or a role model of some kind. If you dont have a mentor, get one, and talk to him or her about the issues you are having with your shyness.

When interacting with people be responsive. Be straightforward. Demand respect and you will get respect. If you get tongue tied, just say the first thing that comes to mind without thinking too much about it. If you dont know what do say, then say, "I dont know what to say." If you get confused or nervous then say, " I think Im confused and a little nervous for some reason". Just work on being honest and responsive.

Also, stop thinking about what people think about you. You would not worry about what people think of you if you realized how infrequently they think about you. People love themselves the most so they spend the most time thinking about what they want. If you dont already, you too should love yourself before you can get over your shyness. You should love yourself to the point that you know that you have something to contribute to other people. If you think you can make someone smile or laugh then you might not be so shy. Just look for ways to make people happy but dont try too hard because they will know you are trying too hard. just point out the irony in life and relax. have fun. Find things you enjoy doing and do them.

Also, love might be lacking in your social life. If so, then find ways to share non-sexual affection with people around you that you can trust. Do so by surrounding yourself with those who build people up. Avoid those who put people down. Be open and sincere about your thoughts and listen to people when they share their own. Try to make friends with people who are tolerant, thoughtful, and sensitive to you and your shyness. Dont try to connect to people that condemn you for being shy because this will probably cause you to become even more shy.

Try to find out why you are so shy then ask yourself: What are the benefits of being shy? What are the costs? Find out what you want and decide how you can get it. Then ask yourself: Can i get what I want by being a shy person? If the answer is yes, then there is nothing wrong with being shy. It just depends on whether or not it fits in with your lifestyle and personal goals.

Also, depending on how old you are, someday you will probably meet someone who really opens you up. Then, whenever you are around them you will totally forget about what its like to be shy. Usually, from my experience, shy people are the most mysterious and the most interesting.

You know what? I used to be waaaaaaaaay outgoing. I was probably really annoying. However, now that Im a little older Im much more reserved and hopefully a little less annoying. I am reserved, but Im not shy, I dont think, because I assert myself when needed, and I tend to be confrontational when needed. But generally, compared to before, I dont say much in social situations. I would rather listen and observe whats happening around me.

Also, I have a friend who is shy. She has an anxiety disorder--but dont worry! This is just a suggestion, OK? She also has panic attacks. If you have experienced instances of extreme panic then you should talk to your doctor about whether or not you have anxiety and whether or not you need treatment. Now that my friend is getting treatment she is much happier. She has less anxiety and is not as shy as she used to be.

I hope you find a helpful answer soon.

2006-10-09 13:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gary 2 · 0 0

Exercises wont help. You need to get out there and make some friends! I am shy myself and that helps a lot!

2006-10-09 12:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0 0

1. Go ask someone out (that's a risk)
2. Sing in front of an audience
3. Run for class president or other officer

STEP out of your comfort zone... you will have more fun!

2006-10-09 12:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ali R 2 · 0 0

Get ya a magazine and practice talking to them fine looking Pictures.(hehehe)

2006-10-09 12:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Winkytreats 2 · 0 0

u can't. Just become more outgoing.....join clubs and go around to local clubs.......get more involved with stuff and meet new ppl. I used to be shy but when i moved to the US, i'm the most outgoing person my friends have met!!!! lol. good luck!!!

2006-10-09 12:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0 0

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