addvice please (christian)
2006-10-09 12:23:36 · 17 answers · asked by redants 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
from the first time i saw him i new that he is the one .he feels the same way too . but would you ? if not why?
2006-10-09 12:28:48 · update #1
i spend allot of time with him we almost live together we dont sleep together and everythings cool
2006-10-09 12:44:19 · update #2
Do you have doubts? If you do, maybe you should wait. If not...follow your heart. Maybe talk to your preacher/pastor/priest at your church...they can give great counseling. I wouldn't take into consideration how well everyone else knows him though, as this is the person you will be spending the rest of your life with...it's more important as to how well you know him. Best wishes and God bless.
2006-10-09 12:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Suse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is well known, how do people like him or get along with him.
Is it in favor or not. If most people get along with him, then I'd say great, go for it.
But if you are hesitant about something I would definitely ask him. One thing for sure, you cannot fool your own family. They know him the best.
P.S. I was told about a guy (Before I met him) that he was good, kind, caring and wanted to get married, by his mother and sister. I actually got a good impression based on what the mother and sister said.
When I met him, I found out he had the same sex partner, was mean to me, and most of his relatives had nothing to say good about him..... So test him before.
Sometimes family and friends could paint a good picture of the guy but there are hidden flaws. Not saying about your case, but be very cautious.
2006-10-09 12:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get engaged and then plan your wedding for a future date. This way you still have time to get to know each other. I am a christian and I got engaged to my husband after two months of dating and then married 11 months later. We are now married almost 7 years and have two beautiful daughters.
If you pray for God's will in your life and you believe that this person is God's best for you, then trust God.
2006-10-09 12:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by tmreiber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly feel like its up to you. Go with your heart. I had a friend who was in a realtionship with a girl for 5 years and once they got married they divorced less than one year later.
On the flip side my beautician dated her husband for 3 months and they have been married 20 years.
Marriage is a journey two people experience together...and I don't believe it takes years to realize if you want to marry someone.
"Doesn't take a lifetime to recognize sunshine"
2006-10-09 14:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No absolutely not, they do not have to live with him, some people are really good at hidden flaws, think of all the horrible people that have done terrible things and every one says but I knew him for years and I had no idea,, Get to know this person on your own, take your time , marriage is considered a life time commitment, and is a heck of a lot harder to get out of than into
2006-10-09 12:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure. This person is a known commodity since he's known by your family and church community, so if they vouch for him, that's a good thing.
The most important thing is that you love him, and that's a question only you can answer. If you do, then you're in very good shape. If you don't, then you shouldn't get pressured by people around you.
2006-10-09 12:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I wanted to marry my now-husband after about 3 months of knowing him. It took him a bit longer to warm up to the idea, but we're married now! So yes, 8 months would be plenty of time for me to make up my mind.
2006-10-09 12:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i met on a blind date, dated 3 months, got engaged and were married in a 7 month time span. we have now been married 11 years and are renewing our vows on halloween. so to say the least yeh it is fine and i wish you the best of luck and happieness.
2006-10-09 14:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by atthean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Give it a little more time. This is a choice for life. A couple of more months will not do anything but help you feel better prepared for that decision. A year at least.
2006-10-09 12:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. been there, done that. people didn't know him as well as they thought they did. or rather, there were things they thought that they didn't want to admit to themselves or me at the time. years later i hear, "i knew he was going to be like that. i saw signs."
(i met him at church. our first date was a special olympics event. we were both active and very involved Christians)
i think everyone should date for a couple years before marrying. and even then, you won't know everything. you don't know someone until you've lived with them. so you need to relax and take time getting to know the one that you will commit yourself to for LIFE.
2006-10-09 12:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋