I asked a question just now about whether anyone would date someone who self harmed and almost everyone said no. I'm beginning to think I've screwed up the rest of my life and will never find anyoine. The scars on my arms and legs are as deep as the chasms of tartarus and I can't stop myself doing it because I get so down and depressed. What is my life going to become? Will I be alone forever?
2006-10-09 12:17:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to your doctor about getting help there is someone for everyone you need to believe that
2006-10-09 12:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by angel 36 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi me again, but as I said, I am sorry for what I said before. and now, to the point, no, you won't be alone forever. when you find someone that loves you for who you are, with scars and all, you will find some form of happiness. it may be hard to believe now, but there will be someone that will except you and not care about your past or how you have changed over the years, (as most should, but people in this world are so superficial.) but how you are at that moment. oh, and yes, i'd date you, because it wouldn't matter if you had scars, because there would be love.
2006-10-13 10:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rabidactyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help to reverse your depression and start building the confidence in yourself. You are already a winner just build on it.
Why do I say you are a winner- because being born was not a life sentence, it was an award for the stregnth the tiny sperm that started the whole process of you had to swim and cling on against all odds and beating millions of others.
Now its time to stop cutting your self up and using the time to train your mind on where you want to be and how you are going to get there. You might start by finding the best and quickest way to heal your injuries but dont just wait for that to happen start thinking of moving ahead at the same time. Good luck
2006-10-09 12:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't think you've screwed up your life. Your self-harming is a way you express yourself. You need to find a girl that likes you for exactly who you are and you shouldn't have to hide your scars from her. You'll find a girl like that. There are not many of us but we appreciate every aspect of a guy. We don't just look at his appearence but deep into his personality.
2006-10-11 16:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Emo Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok dude I answered your other question. And I'll say it here to yes I've dated someone who cut themselves. We lasted for over a year and a half. Just chjill for a bit. You will not be alone forever as long as you clean your act up and get in a better state of mind. Girls don't like guys who act suicidal. Big turn off plus they will only try to help you usually. Just be a repsectful man to them. Show them the real you. Not the depressed side.
2006-10-11 00:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dougy Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you expect when you posted a question like that on here!!!
Everyone is going to say no because a question like that sounds kinda creepy!
you need to get over this - scars arent going to deter a girl that really likes you for you - you made a mistake and everyone does this so its not going to affect the rest of your life - be honest with a girl when you meet her - explain why you did it and why you no longer do it and you'll be fine. Quit stressing!!
2006-10-09 21:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you will not be alone. you just havent found the one that understands you and likes you for who you are. please dont be depressed! it is an aweful feeling to be like that. believe me i know, my scars are deep too but i have found other ways to come on top. being depressed is not good, at least not for me and not for you, because i used to think and there are days when i think that no one can save my soul, but i cant let that down. all you need is someone that can show you another way. just because you feel misunderstood now, it doesnt mean that you will always be like that. i am still trying to get out of the feelings that you must be going through, you are not alone, you can only be as alone as you want to be.
2006-10-09 12:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by metalchik 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bull sh*it. You dont self harm and people who do dont describe their scars as " as deep as the chasms of tartarus ".
Self harming is stupid and unproductive. My EX used to self harm before we went out, Now she is just a bit*ch and I can understand why!!!!!
You think that people will notice how much it means to hurt yourself but they dont, people dont realise that self harm is a last resort or self control before you step over the edge and harm others.
If you are self harming stop!!!! Alot of self harmers are just doing it for the attention! If you really want to do the job right run a hot bath sit in it and open your wrist's up. (not across the wrist ) but bring the blade up your wrist toward your elbow that way you will make it impossible to repair the damage.
Self Harming is Whack!!!!!
2006-10-09 22:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, i don't know if you'll read this beacause you've got a lot of answers but I SELF HARM!
okay ? so... i've had people ask me out even though they knew i self harmed. honestly, it scares the crap out of most people and i know that. But isn't that understandable ? People see us as insecure and they don't want that. I know it's not easy to stop. but at least CUT DOWN. like.. don't cut as many times. or as deep. trust me, start doing that and you'll be able to stop..
now, about your life. YOU hAVE NOT SCREWED UP THE REST OF YOUR LIFE :) you need to be positive okay ? honestly. everyone has scars. people are just assholes because they know you've scarred yourself. keep them covered for a while. keep your head up. SMILE when you're out. and if you must be down, try not to let people see it too much okay :) it's hard. and it's gonna take a while. but trust me it's all worth it when you find someone who wants to be with you :) STAY STRONG <33
2006-10-09 14:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by english_attitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look dude, don't let this depressing moment in your life determine the rest of your life. It is not about where you are at, but where you are going. Try taking up some hobbies, sports, or go out with friends. You need to make some changes in your life to change the way it is going. If you feel you cannot make these changes by yourself, perhaps seek outside help, like counseling, therapy, or other depression treatment.
2006-10-09 12:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont lose hope! There's someone out there who will love you as you are... It's only scars, and as i have said before its only skin deep. what matters is that when you find the right person, prove to her that you are the opposite of what others think you are. Personally, I think you have a good personality.
2006-10-09 12:23:05 · answer #11 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋