I know he likes me and likes to spend time with me. He says he thinks about me all the time. He has sent me a love poem in en email. He doesn't pressure me into having sex but tells me he wants to. (We have not had sex). We started going out to lunch as friends and it developed into more. He is seeing another woman and I told him from the beginning that there wouldn't be anythings besides friendship for us. Unfortunately our lunches were all of fun and we just started to have feelings more than friendship. Now we haven't acted on these other than hugs and kisses. (Please don't lecture me about how wrong it it, I'm aware). My question for guys is could he possibly be falling in love with me? Or is he just a player. My gut says he really cares about me. He is in his late 30's. We've been going out for about 3 months, the first month was just as friends. It was after that that things started to change. I care about him alot, I think I might be falling for him too.
2006-10-09 12:16:45 · 13 answers · asked by Martha T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the other day he told me he doesnt like seeing me with other guys. What does that mean?
2006-10-09 12:26:26 · update #1
Cool.
2006-10-09 12:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ding Ding Ding.... I believe that's the correct answer...
He's not pressuring you for sex.
He seems to really care about you.
He's spending time with you.
Love poem.
Thinks about you all the time...
Judges decision... I believe he's been bitten by the love bug.
Wrong? Why is it wrong? He was/is seeing another woman... He didn't marry her. I think he wants more from this relationship.
Have him over for a romantic DINNER... Give him the straight message that you really enjoy his company and you'd like to continue even more activity with him(non sexual)... I believe he'll figure it out... Late 30's, if he doesn't comprehend by now... He's an idiot!!!
He can't have his cake and eat it too... If things turn serious between him and the other woman... You'll lose your lunch buddy, anyway... Might as well, try to make the match more permanent...
He probably has wanted to be with you all along. He just figured it was best being friends if that was the best he could do.
2006-10-09 12:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are always looking to be more than friends with girls, the older the guy the more chance that he is actually looking for a relationship, a longer term one that is. Not all guys of course, but the chances are better anyway with a 30 yo than a 20 yo. The fact that he is seeing another woman seems a little troubling, I would be worried about that if I were you. Matter of fact, I think that if I were you, Id start looking elsewhere unless you just want something on the side.
2006-10-09 12:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some bad news for you sweetheart, he sounds very much like he's playing you.
If he's seeing someone else and he's still seeing you, which one is he really interested in?
Neither, he's after who ever will give up the bedroom activities first and keep the other one on until she gives it up or goes away.
Guys are pretty resouceful and very patient. They will say and/or do anything they think will work to give them an advantage to getting into your pants.
You, to him, are a trophy. Sad but very very true.
I played this game, trust me.
If is really & honestly interested in you he would be seeing only you and be very open about it by letting you know anything you ask about other relationships. We do lie about thoise so you have to do some homework in that area too. Check up on his stories to verify he's telling the truth once or twice. If you check up on him and find nothing you can probably trust him.
It's your heart, be protective of it.
2006-10-09 12:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably real but I truly believe that a guy can be in love with as many women as he can handle at a time. Befor you completly fall for him you might want to find out if he is willing to ditch his girl for you or if you and him are just going to be night strangers. if you both want the same thing I dont think there is anything wrong with what your doing.
2006-10-09 12:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't specify whether or not he was married....if he's married;he doesn't have any feelings for you but what's in his oants ,and you need to respect yourself and move on......If he's just dating someone else;it is still wrong,but you should discuss where each of you would like this relationship to go,and whther or not he's gonna dump her for you....Do n't sell yourself out and become a sidedish;)
2006-10-09 12:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most certainly is not in love with you, Heck, he does not even respect you as he is still with another woman. Give him an ultimatum, and if he does not adhere, cut him loose because you would be wasting your time.
2006-10-09 12:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by superman01706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really curious about him, ask your friends to watch him and his habits. Friends can see in a guy what you can't simply because you see one side of him. If you have any guy friends, ask them to watch. Guys know guys know guys. No, that isn't a typo. Girls think that girls know guys, but ultimately guys know that guys know guys. I hope this answers your question.
2006-10-09 12:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be projecting your own emotions on to him, as if you are experiencing them together. Just remember that what you are feeling doesn't mean he's automatically feeling the same.
2006-10-09 12:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like bs 2 me. its just game
2006-10-09 12:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋