i'm a very cautious person you have to be now days.just met this guy in a bar, i'm in a pool leauge. I know most people that comes in there.i'ts a descent place no fights or anything.never seen him in there before ,he wanted to meet me were on first name bases right now.he looks and acts decent but looks is'nt everything. do'nt want to give out to much info about me.might see him this week.what questions should I asked to feel this guy out?
2006-10-09 12:09:28 · 30 answers · asked by sue g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you a guy or a girl? Was it a Gay bar?
2006-10-09 12:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are on the right track by knowing you should ask more than you answer. Listen to what he has to say, and if it adds up and makes sense. Liar's stories usually don't add up.
Also, meet in a mutual place where you can leave on your own if you don't like him. I have even had a friend go with me to meet a man when it was a blind date. We had "cues" planned for her to leave or stay. A friend to be there initially is a really good safe way to go.
2006-10-09 19:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try meeting in a public place at an early time, maybe drinks after work or something. Then you can look him in the eye and see if its more than superficial. Ask about his family, pets, job, just lightly though and not without giving as good as you ask. Trust your instincts, its a female thing!
2006-10-09 19:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by littlescreechowl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue, I met a guy when I was on a pool league once. I was myself and just got to know him one day at a time. And now we have been married 20 years. That was the best pool league ever.
2006-10-09 19:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by wataugamary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one...you want info but dont want to seem over interested.You could ask what he does for a living. If you play at that bar often, maybe he knows some of the people you know.
2006-10-09 19:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been out?
Where did you hide the bodies?
Do you live with you mother?
Is that a pool ball in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?
Ask him to get you some coke and see what he says.
Glad I could help
2006-10-09 19:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and straight forward with him. Ask him what you want and if he's offended or gets tight lipped then he's the right one. Good luck, playing pool and why not have a game together? If he doens't know how teach him...you'll get to know his this way.
2006-10-09 19:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be too careful these days. So be very cool, and take if slow, so do not rush into anything, Let him do the talking, don't ask too much, and if he ask you a lot of questions, then throw it back at him, meaning say, are you?
2006-10-09 19:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have concerns keep meeting him in public places until you learn all you need to know, your comfort level is important, and if something is telling you to be cautious do so
2006-10-09 19:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him a little about his past. Tell him your interested in the last relationship. Don't go too deep, cuz you might make him mad. But tell him a little about your past and then see if he opens up about his. On a dating level you don't want to be too open, it might bite you back.
2006-10-09 19:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get his full name and date of birth and national insurance number. then run a police check and benefits check.
if he is a criminal or a dole cheat then ditch him. If not then let him know what youve done and tell him you only did it cos you cared enough.
Good Luck
2006-10-09 19:12:42 · answer #11 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋