why is it so hard for a woman to find a man?

Question

I'm just curious as to why it is so difficult to find a good man. I mean, I'm 24 years old, and single, and I don't get it. I had three guys hit on me or ask me out this week only to find out that they were taken. I'm an independant woman, living on my own, and taking care of myself, so why is it so hard to find a man worth my time?

Answer 1

Ever think that maybe you're looking in the wrong places.

Use this as a guide. If I want to see a lion in the wild, where would I go? Canada? No, I'd go to Africa.

If I want to meet a good woman. Would I go to a bar or strip club? No, I'd go to a place where good women are found in larger percentages. Schools, Churches, Libraries, Workout facilities... We all hear of the hooker with heart of gold, but how many of the men are going to take her to the altar?

Answer 2

You just said it right there. "Worth Your Time" I understand the "being taken" as not an option, but your most likely never going to find someone who within the first few minutes or maybe even days of meeting them are going to automatically match your ideal needs. You should be proud of being 24 years old and independant, there are very few women out there who can claim that distinction. Maybe you should decide what it is exactly you want in a man, and than decide where you think those kind of men would most likely hang out after work or on the weekends, and enjoy some time there. Who knows, but the one thing I have learned, is the "independant" you seem, as you have already noticed, the more "dependent" people seem to find you. Have a great day :-)

Answer 3

You want to hear the truth? The higher you climb up the success ladder many women don't have anyone. I don't know your race, but it's definetly hard for a black woman that is successful to find a man.. Take Halle Berry. She's rich, successful, beautiful, but yet she got cheated on and she had a bad fall out with David Justice. So it's more than just beauty and success. But the thing about it is that we as women have a high bar of standards, but I'm not saying to lower yours, because you shoudln't settle for less. But the thing is that I believe that on the whole planet the ratio of women to men is like 10:1! Even if you ain't that successful it's hard to find a man worth your time.. Believe me or not but they are out there. I think that the key thing is not to look, the man of your dreams will fall into your lap, and will be in front of you. We all think that we can pick him in a crowd and boom, he's prince charming... ANd men these days don't give a damn they will talk to you if they got somebody or if you got somebody, so you can either have a can't beat em join em attitude or just get out there like to a club or something or a gym (i've met some cute prospects there... ) But you are going to have to make a move too if you really want to find someone. Hope that this helps.

Answer 4

Take it easy...maybe it's not time for you. You shouldn't spend so much time looking for the guy because most of the time you feel like you wasted time. You should just take your time, and enjoy doing fun things in your life. You'll remeber those moments better than the moments where you tried to look for a guy.

You can meet guys just going on with your life.

oh ya.....it also helps if you're not picky with guys. They aren't any perfect guys out there, a lot of them have a few accidents here or there.....but no body is perfect. You never know you might fall for a guy you never thought you would go for. Life can surprise you.

So live your life and enjoy it.

hope that helped:)
good luck...you never know you might find the guy pretty soon

Answer 5

it's not hard. maybe it's just you. maybe you need a make over or you don't have that something that attracts guys. Something you might think is cute but is a really turn off for guy. Don't try doing so much. They probably just see you as a a piece of ***. most do. Be more aware of your self when you go out and what you say. Just becasue they ask you out doesn't mean that they are interested in the long run. It's hard to find someone who is more serious about a relationship.I don't have a hard time "attracting guys". Without dressing like a hoochie of course. And the majority are taken/married. Those kind of guys just discust me. I just take their numbers , bring them home to my bf and throw them out. hahaha He's a lucky guy.

Answer 6

I am in the same boat as you.
I think its because we are so picky and we just don't go for any guy he has to be perfect.
I am also 24 single and get hit on all the time when I go out, I meet a guy and its like BORING I don't know what it is but what I do is just have fun meet different guys TALK, FLIRT, Have dinner, MOvies and so on and maybe you will find your match in time thats what I been doing and its fun.

Answer 7

From what you wrote it doesn't seem that you are actively seeking a man. "They" hit on "you." I'm not actively seeking a woman right now because I am independent as well, and I frankly don't have the time to deal with a relationship. So, until you're ready to take that leap, it more than likely won't happen.

Answer 8

I think that women tend to put up very high walls around themselves and restrict their selection to the guys who manage to get over the wall. In that, they tend to overlook many other guys who are well worth their time but refuse to play all of the games and jump through the hoops and go through all of the battles just to get 2 minutes of their time.

I think that some of the more agreessive guys are dating for the thrill of it. But they aren't really serious about a relationship. Its just a game for them. But the good guys who make an attempt and then get shut out usually give up after the first try because they are respectful of a woman's feelings and her "space". Good guys understand that no means no and "not interested" means exactly that. One thing that I cannot stand is when I see a guy at a party standing over a woman being persistant in convincing her to date him. He keeps going at her until she gives in and then once she gives him her heart, he hurts her. And one thing that many women have told me was that they didn't want to be in a relationship with me because they were hurt by another guy. But when they get over the hurt do I get an opportunity? NO. She gives her heart to the next guy who does the same thing.

If I see an attractive woman that I would like to meet, I politely introduce myself to her and engage in small talk or some degree of conversation- And I find out that it does not get me anywhere. But when some other guy who comes along who is more agressive and refuses to let up on her until she gives in, manages to be more successful in dating. I learned from a close female friend of mine that when she refused offers from guys, it wasn't because she wasn't interested. It was because she wanted the guy to try harder. But the danger in that was that it made it harder for her to say "NO" when she really meant it.

So having said all that, I would examine the amount of resistance that you excercise towards guys that approach you. Are you friendly towards guys in general or do you always walk around with that "Dont bother me" posture? I am not suggesting that you should date any and every guy that approaches you might want to examine how approachable you are. Many times a woman that says, "I don't need a man to make me happy" is often percieved as saying, "I don't want a man."

Answer 9

Because good guys, like all other good things, are hard to find. Almost as hard to find as good single girls. Your question is more about "Where are all the guys who haven't lowered their standards about how they will live in order to get the girl?" and in return, guys like me wonder where that girl is to match our standards. BTW, your first two lines are exactly the same thing that I wonder day in, day out.

Answer 10

What city do you live in? I have a brother thats 22. Ok its only 2 years younger. He works full time and is a full time college student majoring in business. 1/2 white and mexican, black hair, blue eyes tall. He's single.