2006-10-09 11:55:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get the two of them to spend as much time together as possible. Most forms of bigotry and racism are really just ignorance -- people don't know anything about other races, and they fear they're so different that there will be problems. Once your mom gets to know the guy, she'll probably start to see what you do -- that race doesn't matter, and that the guy is a good guy, so who cares what race he is?
I'm in an interracial marriage, happily married for 15 years now. At first some of my aunts and uncles had a hard time with it, and one of them even asked me why I couldn't marry one of my "own kind." It just took them getting to know my wife, and spending time together, for them to get over their hangups and realize what a great person she is. They all are completely accepting now, and two of them apologized to me for their misgivings and comments earlier. Ignorance causes fear, knowledge is power!
2006-10-09 12:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a lot of what your mom feels about the choice you are making depends on your age. When I was in high school I chose to date a guy of a different race. My family was totally against it and as it turned out, what I saw to be a RACE factor (which partyl it was) was that it was the wrong guy. Many years later I ended up marrying a guy of a different race and my family loves him. I think age could be a factor and I also think parents hearts soften a little with time and they give you a little more credit for the choices you make when you are older.
2006-10-09 12:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that you should square off with the idea that she may never be. Some people will never accept the possibility of mixed race relationships as meaningful and valid. The fact is that you can't get your mom to change her view of anything. She must change it herself. If you are under 18 years of age, you will still have to live by her rules. But if over 18, your life is yours. You can not live though your mother and she can not live through you. Your relationship regarless of ethnic background does not make you who you are. Remind her that you are still you regarless of who you choose to love. Remind her further that you choose to love in spirit and in spirit there are no colors, only spirits. The bodies we live within are only seatcovers. Our culture and ethnic backgrounds have as much influence as we let them. Some of it is great and some of it isn't. Love who you love regardless of thier skin. In that you honor your spirit and that is most important of all.
2006-10-09 12:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by cammsters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget your mom. Do what makes you happy. She'll never change. Trust me some people just don't they might pretend like it's all good knowing that you aren't going to get rid of your man just because your mom disaproves of it. dont even try. She should accept you for the desisions you make and respect the man that you are with without thinking negativley about him.It's hard to change narrow minded people. I know a lot of mothers like that. mine was never like that. She loved taught me to love my neighbor and she loved me no matter what desesion I made. your mother should be supportive not making you feel quilty about what you are dating. you can try talking to her about it. And ask her questions about this situation and what you can do to make things right. And let her know that you plan to be with you man for a long time. And you want her to accept your desision because you happiness does count. She needs to realize some things help her see the other side of things. I really hate people who are judgmental especially in cases like this. It's just sad. moms needs to look out of the box.
2006-10-09 12:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I have always dated outside my race. My parents just had to learn to accept it.
2006-10-09 12:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, 'Mom, look outside. See that? That is me doing what I feel is right. Not what you want me to do.'
Listen, if you have to get your mom's permission, then your mom is a racist. Tell her and see how she reacts.
I bet you she won't say anything and let you date whoever you want.
2006-10-09 11:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom truly loves you she will get over her narrow minded ways and accept it for now be strong and follow your heart
2006-10-09 11:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her would you rather me date someone my own race who treats me like crap or someone of a different race that treats me like a Princess!?
2006-10-09 12:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by You//Wish//You//Were//Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to add more details about the post.
2006-10-09 11:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make him out to be a racist of every race except his and your own...
2006-10-09 11:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by kevbeer2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋