Is this the reason I'm not getting any attention? I do often wear t shirt and I notice people looking at them my arms.My friends are put off by it, but could this really be the reason I'm not getting female attention? Are they scared that I'm a psycho?
2006-10-09 11:53:43 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok dude yes my ex used to cut her self. But it wasn't for attention..it was because she couldn't handle her troubles and did ti to relieve the pain. If you do self harm to yourself esepcially for attention a few things could happen. One being you could get put in theraphy, hospitalized, etc. Two people calling you a poser, lier, etc. Not wanting to help you. Maybe making your situation worse. Now my suggestoin is don't cause harm to yourself for attention. It's a big turn off for girls. Be yourself. You know honorable and treat them right. Don't be like "I'm gonna end my life tonight!" because it is a turn off but they think you have mental problems and will either A ignore you or B try to get you some help.
2006-10-11 00:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dougy Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope you don't mind if I am honest. Could be. Scars on the arms are a sure sign that someone has had deep issues. However, there are open minded people out there who can and do understand, so don't let this be a cause for you to spiral in the wrong direction. Take mature responsibility for this reality and look for the person who truly cares for you just as you are.
2006-10-09 11:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me again.
I once went out with a girl who had a fetish for self-harm. She also loved cutting me. It was fun at first but she had even more serious issues than I did and we broke up.
My friend Ben is a long term self-harmer and has never had trouble getting nice girlfriends. He is a really decent guy and cares a lot about things so girls like him for who he is.
Most people I have dated have not cared about self-harm that much, they were more concerned with my severe alcoholism. I guess some girls who are afraid of men would prefer a guy who always channels his pain inwards and never towards them.
I do know that dressing as Doctor Who makes most girls think you are a psycho, but I like my hat and scarf so I'm keeping them.
2006-10-09 12:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still doing it then really you should get some help to try and stop if you have stopped then cover up and let people know who you are by looking at your scars some will be put off if you are nice then some will understand take care
2006-10-09 12:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my standpoint, if a person has to self-harm in order to feel at all, they are not going to be able to be in an equal give and take relationship. "You can't drink out of an empty cup".
I'm thinking that your view of what constitutes an emotionally stable relationship would not get any points on "Family Feud". The average person would not understand where you are coming from.
2006-10-09 11:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by NoPoaching 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have and it wasn't really an issue untill I was going to break up with her then I was worried that she might start again. I think you should really try and sort out whatever causes you to do it though before you start to worry about dating. People thing that being with someone makes you happy, it doesn't it only gives you something else to focus on and avoid whats really wrong.
2006-10-09 18:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't unless he was already getting help for it when we started the relationship. In recovery would be okay, currently cutting/hurting himself. Not okay.
Self destructive behaviors are a sure bet the relationship won't work. Those sorts of behaviors are always too stressful and too dramatic a situation for people in love with each other to be in.
2006-10-09 12:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bad is it and how long ago was it? why did u do do it and have you stopped doing it. do you want to get help emotionally and also physically like scar removing creams skin drafting, etc? Thing is attractions are usually physical before a someone decides to date you they look at you outwards then inwards its only human. But there are those who take the time to know people inside out. take the time to enhacnce your apperance and someone out there will appreciate it and love u for it
2006-10-09 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by fizzosgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, why not? We all have past. What matters is that you were able to move on. In the first place, personality counts, scars are only skin deep, what matters is that you have a good heart! If they dont like you because of what they see on the outside then they're not worth it. You'll find the right one, you'll see.
2006-10-09 12:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help my friend, otherwise you will have v.dysfunctional relationships. Obviously scarred arms (from self-harm) are not attractive of themselves and I imagine would be a turn-off.
You could end up even more screwed up from having dysfunctional relationships until you find proper help from a professional - love yourself! Joe
2006-10-09 12:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋