I have been with a guy for 11 months and he complains because I want to know when he will back, and ask that if he will be late to call and let me know. He says "I am an adult, you are not my mom!" I just like to know so I can plan on him being back at a certain time. Am I right...or is he?
2006-10-09 11:47:50 · 13 answers · asked by Jezah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rather if its one day to years that you may know a person , i feel out of consideration it is good to tell the one your with when you will be returning.Especially if he or she knows that you will be coming back at some point. Telling the one you care about when you will be possibly coming home doesn't mean he's a child it just means that he cares enough for you to not let you worry as each minute goes by and it gets later. In this day in time its always good to let someone know where you'll be and the time you will be home, and if the time passes by to quickly , it wouldn't hurt to call home and say "hi honey I'm fine but I'm running a little late". :-)
2006-10-09 11:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by TINA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, a relation is based on alot of things. One of the most thing is Trust. You can't keep him in your sight 24/7, the same for him. But you need to ask him if he really loves you. Cause you have these hurt feelings about his hanging around. Maybe he is tired of you, ask him if this is truth. If not good, if so time to move on. He is a big boy, and you can't change him. Do want you like to do, have a girl's night out. Be Happy and if he loves you , he will be there for you.
2006-10-09 19:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by gilbert_villegas2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you guys live together it would be a respect thing. But if he's gonna do it, you do it too! Let him see how it feels. And if he even opens his mouth to say something, be like, uh huh.. don't wanna hear it. Honey, men don't like to "think" that they are being controlled. It's a man's world, but women make it go round, damn what you heard. But it also depends on how late too it is. If you wanna press his buttons, tell him you are coming too, just to see what he is gonna say. Hell when he leaves, you leave, even it you're just riding around find somewhere to go. But it's hard to keep those type of dogs on a leash because they're gonna leave if they want to leave so you gotta realize if you wanna stay with someone that's gonna be out all times of the night. And is it all the time? Because if it's just on the weekends then I would let it go But if it's all the time I would express my concern as to why. Don't just interrogate him but tell him that it's not to keep tabs but you're concerned, and it's a respect issue, that's all.
2006-10-09 19:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 years. We moved in after only 3 months. I don't ask him when he will be home, but make sure to ask him to call me if he decides he is not coming home because of driking too much or something. I don't want him to scare me in the middle of the night if he comes home after I am sleeping. So whether he comes home or not, he should call, I get creeped out at night by myself, so he should call to let me know he will be home, but also call if he's not so I know of his safety.
2006-10-09 18:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by h.marieh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect he should let you know the plans and when he will return but at the same time maybe he is not as commited yourself. But i know that if my old man pulled a tone like "your not my mom" he would be on his way back to his moms. or where ever he shall live.
2006-10-09 18:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Stuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different, every person is different. He might see that as nagging. You probably think that you are just showing you care. First figure out why you want to know when he will be home all of the time. Then talk to him, and tell him why you want to know all of the time. Make him understand.
2006-10-09 18:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by DoItForDanger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know I would say its kind of controlling, I usually ask afterwards, and he does as well. But you know what? Go out and do the same. Hang out with your girlfriends and dont give him explanations. Maybe his reaction will be the same as yours and he will understand.
2006-10-09 18:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes right. i mean u cant just ask him stuff like that! if he wants to go out with his friends that he will and he will be home when he wants. not when u want. ur not his mum u got that? so if u r'nt then u dont need to ask that. if u do then ur just tellin him that u dont trust him. and guys will break up with u if they think u dont trust them. they cant stand it. ur not his mum and never will be so back off *****!!!
2006-10-09 18:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by punk_kikyo_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 sided coin..... Why doesn't he want to tell you and why do you have to plan your night around someone that doesn't give you the same courtesy?
2006-10-09 18:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by that girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are married chill out... all you will end up doing is driving him away from you
2006-10-09 18:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by ifitaintmeidontcare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋