It seems that my bf and I broke up every other week, it seems that yesterday we both had a great day we made love, every thing was ok and today all of a sadden he is so quit doesn’t want to really talk to me why?? I heat it when he does that kind of stuff and I told him that I don’t like it, but it seems that he doesn’t really care. He always tells me that he loves me and all that but but don’t he treat me like he is in love with me, anyway he really mad me mad early while he was tacking me to school, so when he drop me off he said he said I love u babe?? And I just shot his door and left. It is so hard to do but he just made me mad. And pulse I want to call him so bad but I am trying to not call because if I call him know I am going to end up apologizing because i didn’t say bye or whatever I need help? Why do u guys do that kind of stuff?????
2006-10-09 11:42:03 · 24 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have u heard this before?:
men use love to get sex
women use sex to get love...
so, moral of the story is, u have to be careful and have standards for yourself, and ur partner.. in order to see if they are just trying to USE you, or actually do care about you....and one of those ways is how he Treats you. pay close attention.. if u are Happy, Positive, Healthy, and Better because of him, then most likely he is good for you. but if you are Sad, Negative, Unhealthy, and Worse because of him, u have a problem boyfriend!!! don't let someone use you for sex, and don't use sex to "make" a guy fall in love with you..it Doesn't work!!! a woman is looking for LOVE, Caring, Attention, Affection...the guy for you, is one who gives that to you W/O having sex with you.
good luck, and have some expectations: if he doesn't treat you well, then don't give him any sex!!!
2006-10-09 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men/guys are prone to this type of behavior due to the environment where they were raised. Behaviors like this tend to be a learned behavior and repeat in cycles. Might I also suggest not making love with this boyfriend any longer until the current issues become resolved other wise you are just shooting yourself in the foot. Sounds like you should sit down and talk to your clergy or an adult or two who have some social or and relationship knowledge.
2006-10-09 18:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't really know what they want, and their confusion often confuses those they are with, as well. If you guys are really breaking up almost every other week, then your relationship is not very strong, and things like this will probably just keep happening. Let it go, and focus on finding someone who will be better to you.
2006-10-09 18:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men only do what we allow. There's ways to make improvements but you can't change no one that wants to change.But when you get mad, men think that having sex resolves things. It may feel good, but a few minutes later that happiness wears off. So maybe having sex with him isn't a good idea. Hold out for a lil' bit. And don't call him, let him call you. And when he does tell him your busy. Don't think you're desperate. Imma tell you honey, men of all ages play games, but you gotta know what game is worth playing and if you choose to play play to win not to get played.
2006-10-09 18:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a man but i think i could probably help you on this one...see guys can be often complicated to understand for many reason and one is that guys are not as emotionally attached to us the way we are to them....and because of that we are often left wondering if he does care... however i do believe your boyfriend loves you...he is just not showing you the way that you would like for him to....guys have a harder time expressing there feelings...and i think it's because they are not looking for relationships most of the time....just more of a hook up, women on the other hand let their feelings get involved too fast and we usually end up getting hurt....thats why we know how to deal with our emotions on a much better level, because it often happens to us...so when you end up getting involved with a guy...you need to learn how to accept the love that they give to you....because they have a way more harder time showing it...not that they don't love you its just that they have a different way of showing it to us....oh yea give him a call he'll be more then happy to hear from you.
2006-10-09 19:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this: but it looks like he uses u for his personal interest and then he discharges you. Guys do this bcuz sometimes they have a bet with themselves. " I'll bet that she will come around again!"
If u call him...he is going to do the same thing again, an again, until u allow him too.
So girl, be strong, dont call him, maybe he realizes that he really likes u and then he calls.
2006-10-09 18:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Shaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree wholeheartedly with 'helenwheelz'. He does it because he can. He can because you let him, in fact from your description, you encourage it. You reward him with good sex.
Now, a little secret, not all males are that kind of jerk, we may be other kinds, but not that kind. What you need to do is find a male whose jerkiness you can live with.
This one you can't, kick him to the curb.
2006-10-09 19:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there jerks im sorry... call him tell him that you are not going to say sorry for anything but you would like to talk about it! if i were you tell him that it is over and i know it will be hard to say that but he needs to treat u like a lady!ughhhh guys such pain in the booties sometimes!
2006-10-09 18:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tess c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men will do whatever women will allow them to.
Why are you allowing him to treat you like this?
Or... if you're under the age of 25, it's just immaturity.
2006-10-09 18:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because guys are jerkkkkkks
they think they can be mean and get away with it
and if you give in he will just KEEP DOING IT
stick to your guns and dont call him
he will learn
2006-10-09 18:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by *princess* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋