my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and broke my heart. I found out about it and then he finally told me. He keeps leaving me love mesages and telling me what a mistake it was and hes changed...i dont know what to do. you can look at his questions at Baseball_saenz
2006-10-09 11:29:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should give him a second chance,not sayin go back out with him,jus talk to him,i bet he's diein inside and jsu wants to her your voice.i bet he'll quit his brand new job and sell his new car and motorcycle jsu to see you again.it was the biggest mistake of his life,and he cant stop cryin and missin you.he would do anythin for you and wants you to realize that.he wants you to know he's sorry,and he loves you,always has,and always will.and i dont know why im talkin in 3rd person
2006-10-12 03:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by baseball_saenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 18 I assume you are young too. You have your whole life ahead of you and only you can make the choices you have to make. Look in your heart and find out what you really need and want. Can he give that to you? If he was drunk when it happened I would have to say that one of the conditions to take him back would be he not drink At all! It will be a while before you can trust him and if you feel you can take him back make sure you are cautious and guarded. Some people do change but more times then not they revert back when the same situation comes up again.
2006-10-09 11:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...Kaitlin ):
So sorry you have a broken heart. You are not alone.
Please, please, please, don't believe him. You have several good answers to you question.Listen to them but, NOT to the ones that say give him another chance. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Trust me that's no lie. It is a true fact of true life.
Move on, you deserve so much better.
I caught my husband in our bed with my very best friend. I walked in on them. I stood there, oh for about maybe 2 minutes before they noticed me. I said to them, " you two board or what?"
My husband turned and grabed my knee and said, " I love you Jean." I said, " sure you do honey." I then found out he was cheating on me all the time with lots of other woman. I was so trusting. Please don't hate him, hate his sin, and get rid of him and move on. The world is yours for the asking. Please don't waste your time crying tears over him. He doesn't deserve you.
But next time tell that new guy that will come into your life just what you expect of him. If he can't deliver then move on again until you find what you want from your heart. Don't be so eagar to hop in bed either. The very best advice I can give is, ask God to lead you to that right person for you life, If you pray and ask God he will answer and you and will know in your heart. Be still and listen to God. God is true. Good Luck. Have a nice day
Love yourself and love God.
Sincerely, J. (:
2006-10-09 12:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I mean, not for you, but I think I actually left an answer for a guy with this problem. If it wasn't this guy, I'll share with you what I told him. I told him that "she" will do one of three things.
#1. She will leave you immediately, go somewhere else and start over somehow.
#2. She will leave you immediately, AND tell everybody what kind of guy you are.
#3. She will stay with you, but it will be hard for you to communicate with her.
The reasoning of all of the choices is pretty much self-explanatory. But I'll give you another side that not too many people will tell you. And you can take this at face value.
God (in creating man and woman) created the man to want to dominate and created the woman to want to serve one master (aka boyfriend/fiance'/husband) for life. In the part of wanting to dominate, man will often seek other places to dominate when they feel their own lovelife is dull or already "dominated". In the view of wooden furniture, the way to keep it's luster, you need to dust it. In the same way, to keep a relationship alive, both have to "dust" it. Your boyfriend seemed to think that he could dust two areas of his life at the same time and get away with it.
The saying "If he did it once, he'll do it again" can be untrue if you both work at dusting.
2006-10-09 11:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 04:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to make sense out of nonsense. It is obvious history has repeated itself here. You boyfriend is a cheater and will always be a cheater. For him, other women is like a drug. Sure he may be faithful to you for 6 months, a year, maybe even longer. But eventually that urge, that itch will resurface. Before you know it he'll be cheating again just to get his fix. He'll do it because he has never faced any serious consequences for his past actions.
You must realize that you can handle what your partner does, but you cannot predict your partner's actions. Knowing that, tell yourself you've gotten through your partner's actions before, and you'll get through them again. If you play the "What if?" game, you know your answer. The answer is, bet on yourself, don't bet on your partner. You only know yourself 100%, you don't know him as well as he knows himself. That is why you bet on yourself.
2006-10-09 11:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! Take back a cheater. The bottom line is this, if they truly loved you as they should, they wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place. Secondly, if they cheat on you once, then 9/10 times, they will cheat again.
Don't give into his/her tricks and schemes. You gotta stay strong and do whats best for YOU.
2006-10-09 11:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
while if u take him back then he is going 2 keep on cheating on u and ur lettign him do it 2 u cause ur going 2 take him back if i was u and i found out that my man was cheating i would leave him alone and get him replace and get wit someone that will treat me right and not cheat on me once a cheater always a cheater ur da person that is lettign him use u for geting u in da bed wit him and then when he is done wit u he is going 2 go right back out there and get wit someone esle and sleep wit them and then come back 2 u and give u an sexuality transmitted disease well if that wat u wanted go ahead,
2006-10-09 11:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already shown you how much he respects you by cheating on you. There is no way to have true love without respect. You would be much better off in the long run if you tell him to take a hike now.
2006-10-09 11:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should only take him back if you can't live without him and can make sure that you will NEVER bring it up. If you keep bringing it up everytime you have a fight or something the relationship will end very quickly and badly. You have to make sure that you also don't become too insecure and you have to trust him. If you can't do these things than don't bother getting back together with him.
2006-10-09 11:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋