There is a family BBQ and a recently outed (1.5 yrs out) family member wants to bring their partner of 1.5 years. The gathering is at the home of a sibling of the gay or lesbian person. The partner was not invited to the BBQ and the sibling of the gay or lesbian person has not shown any interest in meeting them. The sibling of this gay or lesbian person is uncomfortable with the possibilty that the gay or lesbian couple may hug or hold hands or act in any way like a "normal heterosexual" couple in front themselves and other family members (especially young children) who will most likely be uncomfortable and not understand. Does this mean that the sibling hosting the BBQ is homophobic or at the very least promoting homophobic behavior?
2006-10-09 11:28:11 · 9 answers · asked by Curious123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont think that the gay couple will act like that in front of the entire family. They will probably act like friends. When Im with my boyfriend in a family reunion we dont kiss and cuddle all the time it is uncomfortable, even being heterosexuals.
But I think the gay couple should be invited to the BBQ. It is very normal nowdays. It is normal that the sibling or the entire family will feel a bit akward. But if they love him and accept him/her, they should make it a little more easy for him. Remember its harder for him/her.
And dont worry about the children, Homosexuality is a reality and lets face it sooner or later they will understand. Besides it is good for children to see that the family loves and accepts him/her. They wont grow with that predjudice because they will learn to appreciate others for who they are and not by what their sexual orientation is.
2006-10-09 11:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family bbq is for family right, then the gay family member should be invited, and if you are truly family then his partner should be invited to. Most gay couples both men and women do not carry on like some people think. I recently had a bridal shower for my daughter at my home, I asked my friend to come, she's gay, she said she would love to come, put didn't want to make everyone uncomfortable. I told her that it's my house, I wanted her there, so if the other guests choose not to come then, that's their right. She brought her girlfriend with her, they don't do public displays of affection. Neither does my other gay friends. I do have a gay friend, that does hold his boyfriends hand, and has been known to sneak a kiss or two when he knew it bother someone especially my husband. They are friends, but my husband just can't stand it. It's just to get my husband's goat.
There are people that make out in front of anyone, they don't care. It's not just gay people. There are some that don't care, but I don't they are any worse than the straight people. It's the person, does he seem to be the kind that doesn't care what other people think, does he like to shove it your face. I think that you should invite the couple to dinner just the two of them, and talk to them. I think that you can rest easy after that. If they have been together for a year and half that's an relationship, so why not try to be more understanding and compassionate. Unless you scared that you are going to exiled from the rest of the family. And that's a shame. I know families that disown or sweep all kinds of problems under the carpet, mixed marriages, out of wedlock babies, drugs, we are suppose to family.
Please invite the couple over, if not for dinner then desserts. Speak with them, the sidling's partner may not want to come after all, he may all ready knows he's not welcomed. Someone needs to open the door....can it be you?
God bless us all.............
2006-10-09 12:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness. Here's the thing. If the sibling who is 'uncomfortable' with their sister/brothers sexual lifestyle, the 'gay' sibling should decline the invite to the BBQ. I have a gay brother and if I ever had an outing, I would NEVER shun his partner. And, if no one who also attended my party liked it, they would be shown the door, whether they were another family member or not. We wouldn't allow any ridiculing or any other disrespect of their partnership.
2006-10-09 11:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly D 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, With the younger generation being more tolerant of those types of relationships, the older generation has not adapted as well. We have both friends and family that are in bi/gay relationships. If the get together is at someones house that does not approve or does not want to see the public show of affection between two people of the same sex, RESPECT their decision. If its at the gay couples house, then all goes. If people are coming into the couples home, then they should expect it and TOLERATE it.
2006-10-09 11:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've got made out with my gay pals formerly, in spite of the fact that it replaced into only a demonstration of love and not possibly romance. i definitely dated a gay guy for 3 years. We have been an exceptionally stable couple, yet finally found out it replaced into in no way going to artwork out. not purely have been we gay yet we've been very shielding of another, and the intimacy point replaced into dropping. From journey, I ought to declare you would be in somewhat some denial approximately it except this is an open dating. Wasn't stable for my mentality.
2016-10-19 02:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by shine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its siblings home and they get to invite whoever they want. Have your own party and invite all of them. Maybe that would show the sibling they have unwarranted fears. Some people don't have a clue so they imagine how things are. Have your own get together and put their fears to rest. m
2006-10-09 12:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mache 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not comfortable with any couple showing too much affection when visiting me. I don't think it is right to make out in front of others in their own home.
2006-10-09 11:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your just not used to it. I wouldnt worry about it but yeah you seem like a homophobe!!
2006-10-09 11:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Skylar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Pray for them, but get over it. Their sexuality is between them and God. Don't pass judgement. Not your job.
2006-10-09 11:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋