Well Its a hard desecion because..he might change his mind about you, he might tell people, if you break up everybody might find out, he might think your easy, all of the what ifs. I wouldnt tell him right now anyways we havent been dating long enough. But when has it been long enough to tell him. And do I tell him? How do I know how he will take it. No I'm not a slut so I dont want him to take it that way. HELP!
2006-10-09 11:11:35 · 17 answers · asked by blondebabyxoxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a boyfriend is so depth lacking that your virginity becomes the deal maker or deal breaker then you are not with a quality human being and it serves you to know that you are worth better and you should find someone else. You should also think about how long you have been hanging out together and when this question came up. I was once with a young woman many years ago who asked me to be her first. I can not find the words to tell you how honored I was! Anyone who would look down on you based on the status of your virginity is not worth your time!!!
2006-10-09 11:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by cammsters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your new boyfriend you don't have to tell him nothing becuase you don't even know if the relationship is going to last you may never know if he just want's to F***. All you got to do is wait until you feel ready or until you really love him and if he keeps on asking just tell him I am what you think I am" and if he keeps on getting a attitude or bringing it u just ask him why he asking becuase guys tend just to F***
But if your really don't care about it it's best to come with the truth and if he stay's then you know that he loved you for who you are than for what you have done.
2006-10-09 18:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL HONESTLY GIRL I THINK IT DOESNT MATTER HOW MUCH TIME YOU'VE BEEN GOING OUT. THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. PERSONALLY I THINK THATS THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOUR BOYFRIEND. WHO CARES WHAT HE TELLS OTHER PEOPLE AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THE TRUTH WHO GIVES A CARE. YOU SHOULDNT. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TELL HIM. TRY HINTING NOT HINTING BUT BRING UP THE SUBJECT KINDA AND ASK HIM IF YOU WOULD BE HIS "FIRST" (AND SORRY BUT MOST LIKELY YOU WONT SO NO BIG DEAL) AND THEN OF COURSE IM PRETTY SURE HE WILL ASK YOU IF HE WOULD BE YOUR "FIRST" AND IF HE GETS MAD NO BIG DEAL AND IF HE LEAVES YOU NO BIG DEAL EITHER. POINT BLAMK YOU NEED TO TELL HIM. AND PERSONALLY I THINK YALL SHOULD BE WAITING IN THE FIRST PLACE BUT THATS YOUR BUSINESS!!
2006-10-09 19:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by MADNESS!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Honey, Alot depends on his background. If he comes from a church family live,maybe he will care about that. But when I meet a lady, that isn't a question I would ask her. So why would you give him that information. If he wants to know, tell him it's none of his business. If he loves you then it mattters not. Maybe he isn't grow-up , and needs more time to himself to mature. To be Happy with your self is the Key. Don't worry about his feelings.
2006-10-09 18:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by gilbert_villegas2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are not a virgin.So what? Don't take it so tragic. Did you enjoy the first time? If you did, what if others find out? is he virgin? I don't think so. Have fun and don't mind if he finds out.It's best to hear from you than others. And if he thinks different from that moment forward dump him.There are lots of guys who don't care if you are virgin or not.
2006-10-09 18:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by DUKE OF SEGOREAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he ask you! He can't get mad at you for not telling him because he never ask. You don't have to mention anything that you don't want to. But he does ask if you are or not a virgin just tell him the truth.
2006-10-09 18:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a little longer and get to know him better. If you don't know when or how he is going to react to a certain fact then you are not ready to even talk about this. Everything has a time and a day.
2006-10-09 18:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by gil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends did he ask? I don't see why you would just up and tell him you're not a virgin. If he asks you shouldn't lie don't be ashamed of the choices you have made in your life. People will always always talk trash about you its unavoidable you shouldn't let it bother you.
2006-10-09 18:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Trish H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him...he will find out sooner or later anyway....and what says HE is a virgin????
2006-10-09 18:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him, if he is planning on knocking the bottom out of it and he gets all excited just to find out he is in the kiddie pool he will be real disappointed. He needs to know if he will need his snorkel or just a rubber ducky.
2006-10-09 18:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ask S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋