My boyfriend just asked my out one week and a half ago. I really like him alot. Im not a type of girl who gets attached and is all obbessive with guys. But I feel like maybe this is more than just a little thing I feel like this could last for a while. We have a lot in common and we understand eachother really well. But I just got out of a one year realationship and I was the one who got hurt. And I dont want to get hurt again. So how can I tell that he is really in this for the right reasons and wants to be in this with me for a while? How do I know that he wont hurt me? How do I know that I'm not just another girl he wants to date?
2006-10-09 11:07:33 · 7 answers · asked by blondebabyxoxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AHHHHH!!! I am sorry if it feels like I am singling you out, but relationships take risk and work! I can't take anymore of the, "Am I going to get hurt?" You will never have a love life if you don't take the chance! Teddy Roosevelt had a great line once, something about how he would do whatever he damn well felt like and let Congress talk about it later. Don't ask. DO! Live and learn! You will make mistakes! That's how we learn! It won't be the end of the world!
2006-10-09 11:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know if you'll get hurt. You can't know how long it'll last. But the amount (of time, energy, effort, etc) put into a relationship is proportional to the amount of hurt. Don't bank everything on the relationship for the first part of it. If it doesn't work out after a few months, the letdown won't be as big. But if it's still strong, you know something's right.
2006-10-09 18:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by spending time with him, and having conversations with him. see what he talks about and if he only thinks about having sex with you, and if he seems like the type of guy that will leave you, then you will know. all u have to do is pay attention to his conversations and thoughts, and u will know if in the future he will hurt you or not, dont be afraid to get hurt, its all part of learning and understanding relationships.
2006-10-09 18:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by balanced112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a girl answering from a girls point of view
i think you might just have to give it a chance. first get to know him,talk to him or go for some coffee with him . if you dont like him dont get serious.i hope i helped.
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2006-10-09 18:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats an easy question dont sleep with him for till your sure of his feelings if he pressures you and you dont and he is still there with out cheating you got a keeper. I cant believe i saying that but it is definitely true!
2006-10-09 18:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl its cool see if he justs wants to be on u or if he just wants to be witch u and not wit ur pants trust me i know kk if u want to email me u know the address kk laterz
2006-10-10 17:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by shyann m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don`t. Try prolonging the relationship untill you are ready.
2006-10-09 18:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋