hes really controling telling me to do things that i really dont want to do he told me to die my hair blonde and to change my attitude and wont let me hang wit some of my guy friends i dumped him was i right?
2006-10-09 10:58:56 · 23 answers · asked by irma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were DEFINITLY right. Your boyfriend shoud love you for who you are and not what he wants you to be. By the sounds of it he was way too contolling and you seem better off without him. Someone like that, you shouldn't even be friends with!
2006-10-09 11:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by city.of.color 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's often difficult to tell someone they did right or wrong in these situations. However, when you listen to your INITIAL gut reaction; then it's always right. Right away you mentioned he is controling. When men become controling it's for a number of reasons and not one of them is anything favorable. This guy sounds very insecure and most importantly, he obviously didn't make you happy. The only way your decision could be wrong is if you make it wrong by going out with him again. Stick to your decision and move forward. There are thousands of men out there that you could be happier with. Remeber that you never should settle for something that doesn't serve you (meaning make you happy).
2006-10-09 18:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure did. No man has the right to tell you who to hang out with or what colour your hair should be. If he wants a blonde, tell him I hope he and Paris Hilton will be very happy together. Two people of such low intellect are made for each other.
2006-10-09 18:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a personal decision, but it certainly sounds like you had good reason to leave him. Bottom line is that you have to be with someone who loves you and accepts you as you are. We all need to grow and mature, but they shouldn't be trying to change you. Also, be very careful of men who try to distance you from friends and/or family. Generally, they are too controlling and want to get you isolated.
2006-10-09 18:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Apple21 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends how controlling about that he was.
Just telling you to dye your hair blonde is not controlling.
What is your attitude like? Are you bit-chy? Irritable? if so that is not controlling and he is right.
As for the guy friends it depends on the circumstances but if all you are doing is hanging out and it is appropriate then he needs to get his jealousy in check. This one you could be right for dumping him.
2006-10-09 18:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Your bf wasn't treating you right. Hiss controlling attitude could lead to something more and maybe worse.
2006-10-09 18:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by Akane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you dumped him for the right reason! He is controlling, you shouldnt be with some1 like that.
2006-10-09 18:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAP!!!! Be shure of it.You are a person not a possesion.Don't let anyone trash your dignity. It's a verry valuable thing to have. Don't let it go to waste.
2006-10-09 18:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by DUKE OF SEGOREAN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right you where so right on that move nobody but yourself should be able to controll you hence the word freedom baby.you dont have to change how you r to be able to date someone, maybe compermise on certin things, but never change your self.
2006-10-09 18:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by virgoplayer1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the best thing for yourself. remember you're not an object to be owned. you are your own person. keep acting like it. he obviously has some insecurity issues with himself if he feels like he has to control women. lose his *** for good.. you do not need this loser
2006-10-09 18:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋