This last month, my boyfriend and I have been having problems talking with one another, which usually ends up in a fight over the phone. He is recently in college,(freshman 18) while I am in highschool, (junior 16). We've been together for a year now. It's been a pretty hard transaction for me personally, since I only get to see him so often. The two main problems are that he sometimes can't, or chooses not to talk with me. When he does, it's only about 20-30 minutes long.
Also, he's not so romantic as he once was when we started dating; and I miss that about him. He's a wonderful person, and is my best friend. He's mentioned that we should maybe take a "break" (I don't date anyone, neither does he. We get together when he comes home, and talk maybe once a week).I've already tried talking to him like I normally do. I can't decide what to do, and how do I get him to be the charming, sexy, romantic guy I once knew? Please let me know if you have any advice. Thanks a million.
2006-10-09 10:58:10 · 6 answers · asked by american_cowgirl_2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it seems to me that your guy is in college now and that changes people so it sounds like him wanting to take a break usually means that the other person wants to date other people he is growing up now and he won't be the same charming guy like he was in High School the only person that can truly get him to change is himself you cannot make someone be what they are not going to be they need to do that for themselves good luck to you
2006-10-09 11:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he lost the spark in your relationship. He may be dating other girls and not telling you. If there is no sex involved between you too then he having the wild party time. I live near a college and there are may guys and girls that have left a girlfriend or boyfriend back in their hometown and they just forget about them until they come back to town. If you are not sexually active, you need to date boys in your hometown. Long distance relationships do not work very well. My answer to you is that he is dating some of those college girls there and could care less about you until he sees you, just to have a play toy while he is in town, that is why he does not just break it off with you. He may be a wonderful guy, just not to you like he was at the beginning of your relationship.
Remember there is a nice guy just waiting to treat you wonderful and talk on the phone all night if you wanted to. Good luck
2006-10-09 18:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bad news is, teenagers feelings can change very quickly, especially when they're in a new situation with lots of new people the same age. You're not seeing each other very often and not getting along very well by the sounds of it. Sorry, but I think your relationship has probably run its course. Try and build up your own social life, so you're not thinking about him all the time
2006-10-09 18:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iy sounds like he is growing apart from you. This happens a lot in a long distance relation ship. Sorry.
2006-10-09 18:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by glass man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably wants to be single so he can experience college as most single guys do. And in the process he doesnt wanna hurt you. thats difficult either wat ya go. All you can do is try but maybe a break is the best thing so that nobody gets hurt.
2006-10-09 18:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to wait on him to do things you have to suggest and do things to peak his interest and it doesn't have to be sexual. you can meet up and you can cook for him and feed each other, give each other massages or just cuddle and feel each other u know just talk about what you feel, even if it might feel embarrassing
2006-10-09 18:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by kandi61689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋