How do you tell someone that you don't want to be a bridesmaid in their wedding without hurting their feelings?? I have known the girl who has asked me for many years but I really don't like her because she is loud, rude obnoxious and a gossip. Why she asked me, I don't know. But I don't want to be in her wedding!! Help!!!
2006-10-09 10:55:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Lie to her.
Tell her you can't afford it right now--buying a dress, buying shoes, buying lots of gifts.
And tell her you're busy and can't devote the time to her and her wedding that she deserves! Tell her you love her and she's a great friend, but her wedding deserves more attention than you can devote right now. And you really can't afford it. You'd love an invitation to the wedding (and possibly a shower), but you've just got so much on your plate right now that you feel that's all you can do. You want to be fair to her, of course, because this is her big, special day. So you're gonna have to sit it out, but you'll be pulling for her in your pew!
2006-10-10 14:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people would probably tell you to be honest and straight forward but I think if they were in your shoes they would not actually do that. If I was you....I would tell her that I don't like to wake up early in the morning or have the responsibility of bridesmaid. I would rather be stressed free and enjoy her wedding rather than be in it. Tell her that you are not able to stay for the whole wedding because you have other major plan later so you are not able to fullfil the duties of a bridesmaid.
2006-10-09 11:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for being an particularly considerate and generous bride. yet I do think of that mandating how your bridesmaids positioned on their hair is slightly lots. I see questions here from brides complaining approximately without notice pregnant bridesmaids, new tattoos and piercings. And each and every of the solutions they get are thoroughly opposite what you're getting in the present day. A coiffure seems minor in comparison. All interest would be on you. no person is quite going to observe her hair. look at it any different way around. If i replaced right into a bridesmaid and the bride needed us to all positioned on updos i could could say "no". i don't have the hair for it or the face for it. permit your bridesmaids be who they are. You picked them because of the fact they are your closest and dearest pals, no longer because of the fact of ways they look or do their hair.
2016-10-16 00:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DO NOT suggest lying, but I would not tell her the entire truth about her behavior being the reason you dont want to, either. Meaning, I would just say that I appreciate the request but since we are not really cool like that (friends on that level), then I have to politely refuse. I would not say that she is loud, rude, and obnoxious. She is another human being after all and she has feelings.
2006-10-09 12:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are flattered that she asked, but that you don't think you can accept her offer. Tell her it's nothing personal, but that you can't afford to be in someone's wedding right now and that you would still like to be able to enjoy her bridal shower, bachelorette party and/or wedding and that you're available to help her if she needs it, but that you just don't feel comfortable taking on the role of bridesmaid right now. Again, stress how FLATTERED you are!
2006-10-09 11:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asked you because everyone else feels the same way about her and they don't like her! Just tell her that you won't be able to because you have a trip planned for the same time as her wedding (gets you out of going to the wedding too) or that you can't afford to be in it.
2006-10-09 12:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could possibly tell her that it would put a financial burden on you to be a bridesmaid (you have to buy bridesmaid dress, shoes, have hair done, plan bachelorette, and possibly plan bridal shower). But that you appreciate her asking you, and you are terribly sorry.
Whatever you say, make sure that you do it delicately, since this is her wedding, and emotions may be running high for her.
2006-10-09 11:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you have a lot going on... you don't want to obligate yourself to something that you might not be able to follow through with. That you're flattered that she asked but that you think she should pick someone who would be more available and willing. And express that you hope the news doesn't hurt her feelings but that you had to be honest so that she has enough time to choose and ask someone else (rather than you bailing at the last minute).
Good luck!
2006-10-09 11:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't think you have the time or the money that would be required to be a bridesmaid (dress fittings, showers, the cost of the dress, etc) and that you appreciate the honor, but you would rather be a guest instead of an attendant...
2006-10-09 11:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel. It may hurt her but if she finds it out from someone other than you it will be bad. What if she finds out you don't like her later after you were in her wedding then she won't enjoy her wedding picture. It would be in her best interest and yours if you just tell her and leave it at that.
2006-10-09 11:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋