I been in a relationship for five years now with my partner and I never told my partner an official number of people I slept with. I slept with five people my whole entite life. When we first start dating I told my partner I slept with one person when I actually slept with four. I was to ashame to tell about the other three people because I was very young and made very bad chooses. When I started dating my partner I was 18 years old and very dumb. We have been together for five years now and getting married next year and I have never told the truth. I think the truth will hurt our relationship very bad. What should I do?
2006-10-09 10:54:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the people I slept with is a person my partner absolutely don't like but it happen a year before I met my partner.
2006-10-09 11:08:57 · update #1
I can only say I would only want to know if the person I am going to marry has a sexually transmitted disease and only for health reasons. We all make some bad choices in life. When I meet someone I want to know who they have become not who they were. But everybody is different. I don't think the information is any of her business. But that is just my opinion.
2006-10-09 11:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably too late to do the truth or dare thing. Stay with the number you gave your partner. Getting into that mess will only hurt at this point. What is your reason for telling? It cannot be to help things.
2006-10-09 10:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. If you really have a good relationship, it should be able to withstand the truth of your past. Tell them the truth and then you'll stop stressing about it. If your partner takes it poorly, just try to work it out.
2006-10-09 10:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by six.pack.abs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you did before you met your fiance is not relevant to your relationship with him now. The fact that you lied to him is probably a bigger deal than the fact that you had 4 partners previous to him. Tell the truth if your conscience is suffering, but be prepared for the aftermath.
2006-10-09 10:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think it would hurt your relationship? I think you should tell the truth. Just say "When we started this relationship, I didn't realize how far it would go, and I was still building trust when we asked about 'numbers'." and just be honest. I don't suggest starting a marriage out with any baggage.
2006-10-09 10:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. Because in a relationship you need to tell the truth. He needs to understand that hes the only one in your life. And this was before you even met him.
2006-10-09 10:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always tell the truth. You then have nothing to hid. In your case, make sure you come clean before marriage. You don't want things to show up after you're married. Not a good plan. Tell her what you told us. . . lousy choices.
2006-10-09 10:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well....I think if you talked to her and explain...she'd understand...and seriously....any number under double digits is still nothing to worry about. there are some people who measure the amount of people they've slept with in triple digits. you have been together for 5 years and I'm sure your relationship can weather this storm. well...unless one of the women you slept with is someone she dislikes tremendously
2006-10-09 10:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gurl please he would appreciate it if you tolds him the truth but honestly in this day and age 5 ppl is NOT alot...ive been with wayy more ppl than that which is not good but hey **** happens. But pls dont feel ashame...wats done is done - he can either focus on the past or look ahead.
2006-10-09 10:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when ur in a ralationship for long or getting married is better to tell the true so they wont be any surprise later and it would just make it worse
in a relationship, there are no surprise and you must tell the true this is if you would want to live happy
2006-10-09 11:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by sam s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋