Every morning when I see him he'll do a "check" and he'll tell me to sit down and lean forward so he can make sure my jeans aren't showing anything....I feel disrespected but when I tell him that he just doesn't understand...he thinks I WANT "other guys looking at me"....which is not true... :( Is what he does bad or is it just me??
2006-10-09 10:49:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the looks of it he's a little paranoid about you leaving him. just Make him feel secure and let him know you'll always love him and within a short period of time he wont need to tell you these things.
2006-10-09 10:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by city.of.color 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure and controlling.. this is not good and could spiral out of control if not nipped in the bud.. I am not saying you should leave your boyfriemd but he has no right to control what you wear.
That said if the reason you are wearing such items is only to get a reaction from him then its your problem..
you will know the truth
It is an issue and an understanding must be arrived at
2006-10-09 10:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to be a controlling boyfriend which leads to it being bad, because as time goes by, he will only get more and more controlling... get out of it, while you can... he obviously is very jealous and that can be dangerous. If he would only bring it up in a casual conversation it would be different... maybe he only likes a conservative girl... but the way he's reacting, he is only trying to be controlling!
2006-10-09 10:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shows this guy has control and jealousy issues. Its not a good thing for you. Next time he asks you to do that dont. He is not your father and has no right to check you. Who does he think he is ? Dont ever let a guy control you like this. It will only get worse and he will try to control other parts of your life. He's got issues.
2006-10-09 10:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your jeans and necklines are so low that you look like a common s-lut, then yeah, it's probably a good idea to change it up a little. However, if they aren't that bad, I say wear 'em. Either way, he can't tell you how to dress.
2006-10-09 11:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little bit of both the negative ....He is controlling and you guys are not married you wear what you want to wear positive.....you should not want to disrespect your self by showing stuff that guys have not worked for and dedicated them selves to ...I think he is looking out for you both
2006-10-09 10:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by cora7391 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds pretty controlling. While he has some good points here, if you are not comfortable with these rules, you need to talk with him about this and set boundaries you are comfortable with.
2006-10-09 10:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and immature and controlling. Get out before it gets worse!
2006-10-09 10:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look he's jealous .. he dosent want anyone to c any part of u, he wants u all for himself! and thats nice! he's proving u that he's not with u to show off or smthn
wear the other stuff when there's only u and him :)
2006-10-09 10:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by green_n6 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to find a new boyfriend.
2006-10-09 10:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by The B Man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋