im confused on what to do im hearing different things on what to do my bf doesnt have a steady 8 to 5 job but he does get out and hustle up money to get what i need so whats ya s opinion should i throw him out or what he is good to me and my kids
2006-10-09 10:23:45 · 13 answers · asked by dkay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he's legal and paying the bills, what's your problem? Not all jobs have regular hours.
2006-10-09 10:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though your man can get out and "hustle" up money, that isnt good enough to maintain a family. There are things you are going to need in your future that "hustling" wont provide for you. Such as a good retirement plan, money to invest, a house, health care, etc. At some point he is going to have to realize that when you are older, you arent going to be able to keep up with that game. A responsible man has a job that can provide for his family. It doesnt have to be anything excited, but something that pays the bills.
Now if he hustles outside of his job- more power to him. But let me just say that if your BF is making money and lets say he gets arrested, if he has no way of proving how he earns his money they will assume he is dealing drugs or some type of criminal activity. Even the mob guys have jobs that prove where SOME money is coming from.
2006-10-09 17:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the sound of that-he gets out and "hustles" the money. It just conjures up images of something illegal. But at any rate, there are other things to consider other than money. If you're young your probably not thinking too much about insurance benefits and retirement plans. But take it from me, you'll soon be at the age when you realize you should have planned for the future better. I mean no disrespect but there is no way I would be with a man that didn't hold down a steady job. Especially since I've worked all my life. If I can do it, so can he.
2006-10-09 17:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN UP!!!!!!!!!!!!
By taking his money you are telling him that what he is doing is o.k........so you took money...what do you do now.........If you want him to stop tell him you don't accept what he does and that this situation is partly your fault because you have been taking money , which puts pressure on him to take care of the house hold ,2d come up with a good alternative a better job or you help him carry some of the financial responsibilities because it is hard to make 100 day vs 5 bucks an hour hustling is like a drug you can't just quit cold turkey you get help or get killed or locked away! If you try my suggestion and it doesn't work then make him leave a good mother always protects the welfare of her child no matter when and if being with him is a danger then he has to go!!!!!!! P.S next time use spell check.........!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 17:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is good to you and your kids and he provides an honest living, why would you want to throw him out?? Does he deal in drugs?? Do you love this man?? You did not say that. Do you have a job, or, does he provide everything?? Is he a good example for your children??
Lots of questions to answer before you can just ask a bunch of strangers if you should throw your bf out or not.
2006-10-09 17:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cant decide that for you...but think of your financial future. College, etc? Retirement...a career would be good for those things- but if he's good to you and you are happy I wish you the best of luck. Ps I hope for your sake that it isnt anything illegal because if he gets a felony it'll be that much harder to get a job and he'll have to keep doing what he's doing forever to make money.
2006-10-09 17:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by leah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hustle up money hmmm I would have to have more stability than that especially if I had young children.
2006-10-09 17:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by laurafox0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should hook up with some stranger on the internet but dont tell him just let him keep on giving you that money and share it with your new bf. Just cuz he is good to your kids what difference does that mean. Does he eat that Y like its jello?
2006-10-09 17:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep him, it doesn't matter right now how he provides for you as long as he is providing, just work on getting him a legit job and you a job. Hope this helps.
2006-10-09 17:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by smartiebc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice that he is good to you and the kids. You need to have a talk with him and tell him that you need more security-that he needs a full time job!
2006-10-09 17:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋