my ex-girlfiend was forced into breaking up with me due to servere pressure from her parents..i understand why she broke up with me and why she wouldn't want to get back together with me just yet because she doesn't want to hurt her parents feelings any further. i sense that she is still in love with me and she wants a future with me as we still tallk and she sometimes very slightly hints at it..when i asked her if i should wait for her parents 2 ease up she said no because it wouldn't be fair on me..i kept insisting that i would wait for her but she kept telling me not to...deep down she does want me to wait for her but i dont know if i should wait because she might be over me by the time her parents ease up on her...so shall i wait or not????
2006-10-09 10:13:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't wait, but don't jump right into another relationship immediately either. You are on the rebound as it seems you still have feelings for this girl and to start another relationship now would not be fair for another girl. I know its hard but wait for a few months. Spend this time concentrating on YOU. Then look into being with someone else. YOu want a clean slate before starting a new relationship. The girl you broke up with is showing one of two things here.
1) She is too young and still under her parents control and isn't ready to commit to a full time relationship due to restrictions at home.
2) She found someone else and is using this for an excuse to break away from you, who I might add has already given her the benefit of the doubt and given her a chance which she clearly doesn't want to take.
Cut your ties with her and stay single for a few months. Watch to see how she handles herself during that time. I lay bets she finds someone else. You are clearly a very considerate boyfriend and you deserve someone who can give the same in return.
You didnt say how old are you, if you are young (under 18) you will realize when your an adult that every girlfriend you had at that age seemed like THE ONE.
Enjoy the holidays with friends and family and your freedom for now.
2006-10-09 10:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by waddabunchabologna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it to you gently , your ex does not want to get back with you, it is quite obvious , when a girl says "it wont be fair on you" it means , aaahh give me a break and get a life.
The best thing for you to do is stop contacting her go out with your friends , their are thousands of woman looking for a decent man and like they say in Afrikaans, every pot has a lid [elke pot het n deksel] it will take some time finding yours but be patient.
If her parents dont want her to mix with you i am sure they wont change their minds and remember that blood is thicker than water.
On the other hand being charming to the MOTHER will count in your favour, shlooop her up, buy her flowers, tell her that you hope her daughter will be just as gorgeous as her and if that does not work. Just forget about the daughter:)
2006-10-09 10:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is wrong to answer a question with a question, but I am wondering "why" her parents are against her seeing you? On the hand, why should you waste your life in waiting, if it is going to happen, let it happen, if it's not you have wasted a long time for nothing. I say get out and enjoy your life while you have the chance because one day it will be too late. Good luck and I hope you get what you want in the end. WB
2006-10-09 10:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not wait for her. It sounds as if she really doesn't want to be with you, and her parents are just an excuse. And if she is telling the simple truth, that puts her firmly in the wrong as far as I'm concerned. If a man broke up with a loved girlfriend because his parents said so, I'd say he was a spineless wuss who didn't deserve her. The same goes for a woman who acts in this way.
2006-10-10 01:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man truly loved a woman, he would not want her to go against her family. He would respect her parents and perhaps one day when they are older, they might be able to get together as mature adults.
Meanwhile, don't encourage her to cause a rift with her parents. Don't put your life on hold. This isn't meant to be right now.
2006-10-09 10:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in this very same thing my parents don't like my ex anyways we dated about 1 year and he told me he'd wait well we have n't talk to each other in a year well i ran into him agian about 1 month ago and we started dating again...my piont is if it is ment to be then somewhere down the line ya"ll will run into each other again...so just give it time and see what happen try to move on date other girls..
2006-10-09 10:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by loving him 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't wait forever for her,you never said why her parents are so determined that you two should not get together,maybe it's time to move on, good luck
2006-10-09 10:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by grace k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
if you wait for what's behind you, you may never see the treasures in front of you. i mean this, buddy. there is no point in "waiting" for a relationship, because what happens if she finds someone while you are waiting - you'll feel pretty stupid then, won't you? dude, if she really loves you, she wouldn't let her parents make her decisions for her, she would stick to what she loves. i'm sorry dude, but you better let this one go.
2006-10-09 10:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait you're a doormat. Go on with your life and if it was meant to be, it'll work itself out. There's a great big wide incredible world out there of people and adventures just waiting for you. Don't trade all that for just one person.
2006-10-09 10:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduce him. He sounds worried and green. whilst i replaced into youthful, I dated lots. i might date adult males for about 3-4 months and it would only style of end subtly. i replaced into getting particularly pissed off using fact i needed to be with somebody long term. i ultimately asked my superb guy buddy how women who're in long term relationships do it? How do they make their boyfriends so related? He mentioned intercourse. He replaced into joking of course yet I nevertheless think of there is a few certainty to it. next guy I dated for awhile, i finished up drowsing with. He replaced into so candy and organic. i replaced into his first each and every thing. we've been together for 2 years now. Its for his very own stable, ok? you ought to look at it like... you're doing a stable element for him. I assure you that he needs to be seduced.
2016-10-19 02:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋