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Ok...I'm a christian and i don't believe in sex before marriage. If the mistake is made well i'll just ask God to forgive me and move on. Here's my dilima. This guy who I really like, who seems to like me as much, told me this: "I really do like you, but you won't have sex before marriage and in a relationship sex is 50% although its the least important, it's still half. I respect your morals so i won't force you, If we do start a relationship and i want sex, i'm gonna take it elsewhere and i'm sure that will hurt you as much as i'll feel guilty."
(It really wouldn't matter much to me as long as its just sex. Cause if he wants it, and i'm not giving, its the only solution)
"And you don't deserve that. To me, you really mean a lot, but i don't want to hurt you. If you're willing to cope with it, it's ok even though it'll hurt me to know that i'm doing something like that to a girl like you." I wanna make tha right descision What do you think i should do? (He "was" a christian)

2006-10-09 10:12:53 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

He said we can be in a relationship cause he really likes me, and he's not gonna force me for sex. But he has to have sex so he would automatically do it with other girls. And that he knows it'll hurt me so i should make a good decsision. I know what the right descision could be, but i really find it hard to let him go. He has a great personality besides that, and he's handsome on top of that.

2006-10-09 10:29:11 · update #1

Ah....He isn't the one who persues the relationship, i am.

2006-10-09 11:52:02 · update #2

29 answers

He is trying to manipulate you and I am glad you are at least aware enough to suspect as much, hence your question. If he likes you, he likes all of you, he likes why you are you, and should be proud to know that if he waits with you, he will b your first and only. What guy wouldn't be flattered by that. Stick to your guns. No sex means no sex and if he leaves, that means he only liked some of you. And you sound like you deserve to be totally respected.

2006-10-09 10:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0 0

You already know that your gonna dump him if he feels this way. God says not to have sex before marriage, there's really no middle ground. Find a guy that has the same morals as you, the relationship will go smoother and there will be less likely of a chance that you'll get hurt. Don't end up like the kind of "christian he is"

2006-10-09 10:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by cubsfan90 2 · 0 0

Yea, this guy is smooth, i don't know were he got this line but its gold. What he means by this is 'hey, let me see if i can get this chic in bed, if she goes for it great, if not i'll just move on. I've actually used something similar to this to get away from a crazy chic before. Just take something that the person won't budge on ' like premarital sex or giving up an addiction ' and start driving the wedge. The great thing about this speal is he looks like a great guy either way. Besides, anyone who's married will tell you the relationship isn't 50% sex. Drop this zero and find yourself a hero. You shouldn't compromise who you are for anyone.

2006-10-09 10:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by kharmageddon74 3 · 1 0

I am a guy too! so I can honestly say that I would have to agree with the other 3 people that have answered your question already. This guy is nothing more than a PLAYER playing a game with your feelings and heart if he Truly loved you like he say's than he would respect your feelings about sex before Marriage and be willing to wait with you. Any guy who tells you he loves you but if you don't PUT OUT He'll just get it elsewhere, isn't worth your time anyway. Sorry for your situation. Hope you find this helpfull -Jason-

2006-10-09 10:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Look, I could go down the whole "try car before buy" cliche path but I won't bore my readers with that.

Physical intimacy is of great importance for men because we have such tremendous sex drives. That is why he says sex is 50% of a marriage. Now you are being very very generous in allowing him to seek release elsewhere.

Perhaps you could pleasure him through touch and not intercourse to show him that you are serious about your relationship together. I also don't know where the other sex acts line up in your book like oral, anal, and so on. Just keep an open mind and be considerate and respectful of his physical needs just as he is being respectful of your needs.

2006-10-09 10:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ren Hoek 3 · 0 0

So the question is how is sex only 50% of the relationship? I can tell this guy hasn't fuc'ked for quite some time due to his number crunching being off. I think what he meant was 150% of a relationship.I'm just being mean and I apologize. Easy solution. Every girl I know who wanted to remain a virgin before she got married just took it in the as's. Problem solved. I'm also 50% sure you can't get pregnant from butt sex. Just a really itchy rash. But that's not really appropriate for yahoo answers.

2006-10-09 10:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn V 1 · 1 0

He says he's not forcing you but he's going to say it until you giveup and have sex I'm also a christian but I made that mistake by him constly saying that he want make me he can wait but if I wanted to he wouldn't mind. But saying it over and over you might just give up. You should not be forced to do nothing that you don't ant to do. So tell him you will have to wait or you need to leave cuase your body is the Lords temple and you wan't to do right by God.

2006-10-09 10:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Shas 2 · 1 0

It sounds as though he was hoping you would be jealous and give in. I honestly feel that if you are that serious about not wanting to have sex, then you should be in a relationship with a man that feels the same way. That way you never feel pressured to do things you do not want to and you will not have to worry about him sleeping around on you.

2006-10-09 10:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0 0

As a Christian like myself I understand what you are saying and if he wants to have sex with you just say no just like Joseph said to Potipher's wife and move on with another guy and don't think about it and don't sacrifice your morals for being with a guy. As a guy I would not force the issue if you have more questions e-mail me joshdalt@yahoo.com

2006-10-09 10:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 2 · 1 0

All the stupid bi'tches I know that didn't want to have sex before marriage turned out to be the filthiest c'um dumpsters I have ever met. I mean the kind of skank that would suck you off on the table at Christmas dinner in front of your Grandma. I mean a real nut gobbler. Yeah, thats totally hot.

2006-10-10 06:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by aztris 2 · 0 1

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