Homosexual parenting?

Question

Do you think homosexual couples should be able adopt children? Why?

Answer 1

Yes, because it will get more children out of foster care and into a stable enviornment. The sexual orrientation of the parent really doesn't matter when raising a child!

Answer 2

If gay couples want children, why NOT let them adopt? There are far too many children living in foster homes and in bad circumstances to deny them a pair of loving parents.

If you can give a child a stable home where they're given the care, attention and love they need, they're more likely to thrive--regardless of the orientation of the parents.

I never really understood the hooplah surrounding this issue. What difference does a parent's sexuality make on a child? A parent-child relationship shouldn't have anything to do with sexuality. With gay OR straight parents.

When that child asks questions about why he or she has two mommies or two daddies, answer them honestly. When they ask about sex, teach them the birds & the bees, talk about your own relationship with them. If a child is mature enough to ask the questions, they are most definitely mature enough to understand your answers if you take the time to listen to what they want to know and address their concerns.

And it's not like if a child has gay parents he or she will necessarily turn out gay, either (not that there's anything wrong with that...). Believe me--I've known kids raised by gay parents, who turned out straight. And obviously, straight parents have gay children...

Gay couples are just as able to teach their children morals--the difference between right and wrong, how to treat others, and how to be responsible in the community--as straight couples. But the children of gay couples often learn to be more accepting and less judgmental of others than many straight-parented children. And that's a great thing. There are too many hateful, judgmental people out there as it is...

Sure, in an ideal world you would have a man and a woman who could be invoved in the raising of a child. You can get a male or female influence from others than the primary care-givers, people. So are people going to say that single people shouldn't be allowed to raise children? There's a huge percentage of the population that fall into that category, too, and with that argument, then they shouldn't be allowed to have kids, either. The children that are being adopted have NOBODY. So should we just leave them with no one just because a couple that wants them is gay? That's silly...

And as far as biology goes, does it mean that people who are infertile shouldn't seek help from a fertility doctor, because that's "against nature?" I figure God gave us the knowledge and the means to help out in this situation as well. If he didn't mean for us to do this, why would he give us this knowledge?

It seems to me that it's better that children have parents like these--parents that WANT them--than none at all...

Answer 3

Yes, a homosexual couple is just as capable of raising, loving, caring for, and providing for a child as a hetrosexual couple...

I have several homosexual friends who have children, thier children are well adjusted, intellegent, delightful children...

A persons sexual preference does not mean they will be a good or bad parent... I have seen some hetrosexual parents who should never have been allowed to be parents... Sexual preference should not be a deciding factor in adoption, a persons ability to parent is what makes them a good parent not thier sexual preference...

I know a homosexual couple who adopted several years ago they adopted 3 children ages 12g , 9b, and 7g from an abusive background.. With love, caring, understanding, fair disipline and alot of hard work.. They now have a 24 year old daughter who is in medical school near the top of her class, a 21 yr old son who is doing undergraduate studys in law, and a 19 yr old daughter who is doing general studies trying to choose a major but leaning toward business administration...

I remember the first few months after the adoption the shattered diningroom table .. Shattered by thier son because he was trying to see what he had to do for them to beat him as he was beaten by his biological parents (hetrosexual btw) .. I remember my friend holding his son and telling him that shattering the table was not acceptable behavior and he would be grounded and have to assist in the clean up (glass not something a 9 yr old is capable of cleaning up safely alone) but not something that he would be beaten for.. There were dramatic problems with the other two children in the first few month as well, as the children were testing the limits and love of thier new parents... They handled them all in stride teaching thier children that they were loved and cherished even when misbehaving... Something thier hetrosexual biological parents never taught them..

So yes, I think a persons ability to parent rather than thier sexual preferance should dictate whether or not they are allowed to adopt...

Answer 4

Why not? I've known "alternative families" and the children are very well adjusted, receive little or no harrassment from their peers, and are definitely very much loved and wanted. Actually, some of the more mature and intelligent teens I've met are the product of single-sex parenting. I'm not saying that gay couples are better parents, but the have a lot to think about when starting a family, and most of the time they get it right. More so than most heterosexual families today, who find themselves having children as a footnote to their careers and to their own wants in life...

Answer 5

As a lesbian who is currently trying to conceive (with my big fat LESBIAN partner) I must say this...We are not child molesters, or devil worshipers. Many of us have a relationship with god, and the thing that really gets under my skin is how someone can say it's wrong to put a child in a home where there are two loving parents. What makes on person, regardless of sexual orientation, better than another at being able to love and provide support for a child who was orphaned by their HETERO parents? My girlfriend and I have been together for five years and there are hetero women out there who use having babies as a weapon to keep their man, who is no doubt abusive to her and puts his need for a fix (drug or otherwise) above the needs of his children. What kind of home is that to bring a child into? To answer you question...yes...I think WE should be allowed and not because I am gay, but because I am positive that the home I can provide is more loving and stable than having a bunk in a room full of fifty others and never really knowing what it means to have a place of your own.

Answer 6

They should be screened just like any other potential adoptive parents. Their lifestyle does not define the kind of parents they will be. There are many children that need homes and that it is what is important. Furthermore, there are objective studies that indicate that homosexual parents' children usually become heterosexual. Therefore, being homosexual is not "contagious" to children if that is the concern.

Answer 7

Yes, absolutely there is no shortage of caring gay,lesbian,and bi people who would make great parents.As parents some queer folks can offer children non-normative role models who defy rigid gender roles and are very aware of what discrimination does to one's overall well being .These are very important lessons to teach children today in the violent sexist,homophobic,and racist world we live in. There are lots of "straight" folks out there who should not be parents or caregivers to children under any circumstances. There is many queer couples who already are parents but most societies ignore or erase their existence.I think what really matters is whether or not a person is willing to be a supportive and loving guide to their children.

Answer 8

Yes.

Potential homosexual parents should have to go thru the same screening process that straight ones do. If there is love, that is the most important thing a child needs.

To the person that said children raised in a gay home will grow up and shoot up schools.....the last time I looked, the kids doing that now are from straight homes.

Answer 9

yes I do think they should be able to adopt children. The reasons I believe this is simple. They are people just like every heterosexual couple out there. The argument that they are pedophiles is silly and not even worth debating, as it is standard knowledge that the majority of pedophiles are straight white men. They have a unique perspective on tolerance and can teach their kids very good things. Most homosexual couples I know would never demand that their child be gay, which is another argument, but I know many Christian heterosexual couples who demand that their child go to church, or worship a god that they just might not believe in. How many heterosexual people do you know who have kids, and have no business having them....I know alot and it sickens me.

Answer 10

I was deprived of my virginity when I was FIVE by my father. I was told by doctors that I would never be able to have children, though luckily, I do have one now. He and my mother were very much in love; so much in fact, that my mother chose him over me and let me get tossed from foster home to foster home. I remember wishing when i was kid for a loving family, for someone to love me and make me feel complete. I know that I and thousands of other foster kids wish the same thing every day. It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is; just as long as the kids are loved. Ask any foster kid. They know what I mean. Love overpowers all else.

Answer 11

No. But my reason has nothing to do with hate. I don't think it makes for a very rounded team. A mother and father bring different things to a child's upbringing that 2 men or 2 women just can't. Children get their first glimpses of how to relate to males and females by viewing their parents, seperately and together. A boy being raised by 2 men isn't going to have the experience of living with a woman, and will be grossly unprepared for living with women. And vice-versa. I think the children of gay marriages are as socially maladjusted as the children of single parents. You don't get a well rounded start in life when you only see one side of things.