What is wrong with the "nice guy"??

Question

I am 27 and am starting to see more and more, now that I am single, that girls these days are wanting nothing more than a sugar daddy, and/or a bad boy who treats them bad. WHY? I treat my girls like a queen and treat them with respect like I was brought up (I can't help it), but I also am not a push over. I don't want a girl who is just about what is cool on MTV at the time..lol..and NO DRAMA. For some reason that is what all girls these days care about.
How is someone like me, who treats his women very nicely supposed to find someone these days? I am not about to lie and make up stories to get a girl on bed, nor am I going to act like something I am not.
What's a guy to do?
Any answers from women would be great! I DO NOT want a male opinion on this matter please.

Answer 1

I know you don't want a Male opinion on the matter but you are going to get one.

Your first mistake is asking women for advice on this matter. They are always going to say they want someone nice, but when it comes to hooking up or dating someone they always go for someone that is more of an ******.

What they really want is a provider, emotionally, financially and physically. Someone that will be stable and in control when her life is in shambles. Someone that, when you get into a tight spot you don't freak out or panic, emotionally or physically. The thing is, being nice is not the problem, treating them like a queen is. I'm sure you have heard this "don't put her on a pedastle". Be nice to her, be respectful but don't tend to every need she has. She wants to be with someone that is secure with who he is and won't be so wupped over her that when she leaves he won't fall apart. It is a tough thing, you want to treat her good and make her happy but she wants you to have your own life. She has to know that you won't drop everything or change your life because she is apart of it. That is why Bad Boys are so attractive, they seem secure and a chick knows she can't toy with him. He is his own man. They will have fun together, but as soon as she starts to expect him to change or do something he doesn't want (control him), he says 'see you later' and doesn't even think about it.

I know I haven't explained it well but you got to look at it like you are going to live your life the exact same whether she is in it or not, be nice, respectful and romantic but treat her like another human not a princess or a queen or any other royalty. There will come a time where you may really want to be with her or do something to make her happy, but don't make to many sacrifices for her. That is what marriage is for.

Trust me asking a girl what to do in this case is a trap. It shows you are more concerned about her or their life than you own. Chicks don't want a guy that needs guidance, they want a leader that rarely needs help. they talk trash about that quality in man but its what attracts them.


YOU SEEE!!!!! They are all telling you, to keep doing what you are doing. Nothing is wrong. Right? They really don't know what they want.

Answer 2

hi i know exactly what you mean! i can't find really any good men out there it is hard because there is not enough men like you in the world! women should be treated good not like some little pimps girl. girls are so naive these days and don't know a good man when they see one. so they just need to open there eyes and realize that they more than a sugar daddy and if they don't realize that , then they deserve what they get. sorry but its true. i realize i need a guy that treats me right and that knows manners and knows never to hit a girl,etc. hope this helps you can email me at [e-mail] if u have any comments

Answer 3

I mean me personaly I like a guy that puts his foot down and doesn't even seem like he is a push over. Even though you may not be a push over you may seem like it amd girls want a man that can make the decisions and take the lead. Not saying that you don't. But it's all about how you come across. Don't get me wrong women like to be treated like queens too. it's just all how you present your package. Unfortunately most people in general are shallow. If you are looking for a good woman then you may be serching for awhile before you find her. But don't just settle find what you are looking for.

Answer 4

i still like the nice guy. if he respects my morals and values, he is awesom. most of the guys i go for are nice, and i'm pretty sure a lot of other girls go for the nice guy. we girls love the bad boy look, but not the attitude. i like to kind of follow the crowd when it comes to what is cool and stuff, but i can also stand on my own two feet, and i can tell right from wrong. just keep treating your girls the way you do. it will payoff.
p.s. you don't have to make up stories. i am sure that if you pray, god will send the right woman your way. he's already got a plan for you, you just have to go on with life until it falls inot place. good luck!!!

Answer 5

There is something known as being too nice. You could be making her uncomfortable. Be nice but put a little bad boy in to it. For example, I have a nice guy and he isn't too nice. He gives me massages and tells me i'm beautiful( even though I am not) and yet he makes sure that no one messes with me and he is sort of a smart aleck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

As someone who has been there and done that, I could tell you a few things. But, since you only want to hear it from the ladies, I won't.

I know, it's more fun hearing it from the ladies anyway.

Good luck!

Answer 8

so is this a question or an advertisement. You'll just get the stupid girls who can't see through your true meaning of this question. good luck with them

Answer 9

nothing wrong with that!!! there should b more guys like you around!!